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Does age matter in relationships?

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 5:58pm

IAgreeWithYou

IAgreeWithYou

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We've all heard this story about the 72 year old who married an 18 year old girl. That's obviously the extreme side to the scale but what do you think about someone who was 13 years old and another that was 16? Would you say the same thing for someone who is 23 years old and 26? I personally think that in high school at least (I'm 14 so this is really all that I have experienced) that I'd say anywhere between 0-2 1/2 years is alright. Do you think differently? Is it possible that if the connection was strong enough age wouldn't matter? Please tell.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 6:03pm

R2D21999

R2D21999

8,596 posts

I don't think age really matters at all unless its like you said 72 marrying 18, but the 13 and 16 thing that I see as not a problem to me at all

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 6:19pm

tegan190

tegan190

614 posts

Well, if too people really like each other than no, age really doesn't matter. It will only matter to the people who want to make fun of you for going out with a younger/older person. 13 and 16 is a little too far off for me because a 13 year old would be in 8th grade, and a 16 year old would be a junior in high school. A freshman going out with a junior or even sophomore would be a little awkward. If you really like someone, who cares what other people think do what makes you happy.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 6:20pm

sourwhatup2

sourwhatup2

3,255 posts

To be completely honest, I think it just depends on the situation.

Obviously a 16 year old shouldn't be dating an 8 year old. Lol. In more realistic terms, like you said 16 and 13, that's fine.. Depending on the situation. And on other terms kind of related to the OP subject, I think older women is fine for men, I mean I'm 18 and I date women who are 2 or 3 years above my age. So see it depends on the situation.

I know I didn't really explain myself, but it's pretty much self-explanatory.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 7:31pm

VonHeisenbourg

VonHeisenbourg

215 posts

That's obviously the extreme side to the scale but what do you think about someone who was 13 years old and another that was 16?

A 13 year old and a 16 year old is a little inappropriate, 16 year old is a senior in highschool (11th grade) and a 13 year old is in 8th grade. That isn't really right I think.

Other than that 2-3 years isn't a big difference as long as both the people are at least 18 in my opinion, otherwise it seems wrong if it's an 18 year old going out with a 15 year old, but a 21 year old going out with an 18 year old, not so bad.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 10:20pm

PurpleSquishy

PurpleSquishy

147 posts

Age only matters when you have adult chasing child. Later in life it stretches because of lack of options.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 10:28pm

Skeleton_Pilot

Skeleton_Pilot

1,290 posts

Age only matters when you have adult chasing child.

Well, I suppose that poses another question... what if it's the child who is chasing the adult? Not a child as in someone in elementary school, but maybe someone who is 13 or 14 chasing someone who is old enough to be one of their parents.

 

Posted Nov 10, '12 at 10:31pm

Maverick4

Maverick4

3,707 posts

The fact that age plays such a role is because of the sex appeal being (percoeved) such an "important" aspect in a relationship. A 100 years ago, marrying at 19 your first cousin who was 15 wasn't odd; it was socially acceptible. But because sex has become more acceptable to talk about and participate in, it plays a greater role in how we see things.

Plus theres that whole date **** issue. You know, getting labeled as a sex offender and serving a nice sting in prison.

 

Posted Nov 11, '12 at 1:54am

Masterforger

Masterforger

1,633 posts

Depends on your personality. If a man likes the idea of protecting his wife and children and being the man of the house, it's more typical for him to want to be the eldest. But others, who may have the same ideals as aforementioned man or different just don't care about age as long as it isn't the ridiculous 30 year and above span.
Of course, in the Middle Ages and around that time the father often chose his son's marriage, and although it was preferable to be married to a girl who was younger, Shakespeare married a woman some years his senior.
It all depends on your approach to life.

 

Posted Nov 11, '12 at 3:07am

zonic98

zonic98

485 posts

Personally, I couldn't think of dating a girl that's 3 years older/younger than me.

 
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