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how do u tell your parents you are an atheist

Posted Feb 8, '13 at 10:57pm

Lanod

Lanod

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my family arent very religious but I'm still scared to tell them i dont beleive god

 

Posted Feb 8, '13 at 11:13pm

Kasic

Kasic

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my family arent very religious but I'm still scared to tell them i dont beleive god


There's a few important things to do.

-Don't bring it up at church, for God's sake. (More pun ^.^)
-It's best not to do it when you're feeling angry or emotional.
-Don't do it when they are either.
-Wait for a right time. A casual discussion about religion works. Simply state your own opinion.
-Don't get sucked into Pascal's Wager
-Make it clear if the subject comes up that being an atheist does not mean you have no morals.
-Don't insult their beliefs by calling them stupid, foolish, or whatever else. If you must say something, say it in reference to yourself. "I do not believe there is sufficient evidence," or "I do not feel 'God's presence' in my life," for example.
-Don't let them drag you off topic with a red herring fallacy If they start talking about the Theory of Evolution, The Big Bang, or Abiogenesis, tell them that is not relevant to your belief in God.
-Don't argue with them about your belief. That can be done at a later time. Spacing out the emotions associated with the topic keeps them calmer.

Well, that's all the ones that come to mind immediately. I'll post back if I think of any to add.
 

Posted Feb 8, '13 at 11:20pm

Lanod

Lanod

28 posts

thanks man

 

Posted Feb 8, '13 at 11:45pm

BigP08

BigP08

1,469 posts

I would also add to make sure you're not putting yourself in financial danger and that you can handle the emotional danger. If you're still in high school and your family is conservative Christian, be certain that they won't force you to go to boot bible indoctrunation camp or something. If you think your parents will understand, then be open with them.
I only mention that because I am currently financially dependent on my conservative Christian family and I cannot tell them I'm an atheist for a few years.

 

Posted Feb 9, '13 at 12:16am

Squidbears

Squidbears

653 posts

I only mention that because I am currently financially dependent on my conservative Christian family and I cannot tell them I'm an atheist for a few years.

If they really care they're not going to disown you for having differing opinions than them. I grew up in a christian conservative household and when I told my parents, they didn't like it... but they accepted it, as they should. The child that is disowned for being different than their family is a rare one.
 

Posted Feb 9, '13 at 12:26am

BigP08

BigP08

1,469 posts

If they really care they're not going to disown you for having differing opinions than them. I grew up in a christian conservative household and when I told my parents, they didn't like it... but they accepted it, as they should. The child that is disowned for being different than their family is a rare one.

It's my father that I'd be worried about. I'm commuting to college from home, so I could leave if I wanted to, but I would rather avoid unnecessary conflict. The rest of my family will be okay with it I think.
I guess the best defense is, "God knows what it would take to make me believe in him again, so just pray to him that he do the thing that will make himself known to me."
 

Posted Feb 12, '13 at 8:10pm

Blairlarson

Blairlarson

93 posts

Well if your parents are not religious why would you be scared? And second if your Parents are religious then they would probably turn you over to the Light side of the force

 

Posted Feb 12, '13 at 8:12pm

Kasic

Kasic

5,734 posts

And second if your Parents are religious then they would probably turn you over to the Light side of the force


Because forcing your kid to believe in something that they don't by making them go and listen to a boring sermon that almost never changes for an hour every sunday morning is the 'light side of the force' at best. Screams of that you'll be going to hell, not be allowed to participate in holiday gatherings, grounded until they believe in God, and more are the slightly worse ones.

Disownment stories are not unheard of.
 

Posted Feb 12, '13 at 8:15pm

Blairlarson

Blairlarson

93 posts

The you are going to hell part is what religion you are. I know that some parents are understanding and will let you turn to the Dark side of the Force.

 

Posted Feb 12, '13 at 8:21pm

Kasic

Kasic

5,734 posts

I know that some parents are understanding and will let you turn to the Dark side of the Force.


If they are understanding they will not believe atheism to be the 'dark side of the force.'

Atheism simply refers to a lack of a belief. Anything else is unrelated.

"Do you believe in God Jimmy?"
"No."
"Okay."
^Understanding.

"Do you believe in God Jimmy?"
"No."
"It's your choice to ignore God, but okay."
^Not so understanding.
 
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