iwa s wondering is there anyway you could add personalmessading(i hope i spelled it right) because sometimes you jsut want to send messadges to users that none else should see
how about make PMing goes to a mailbox that can be acsessed(im not shure is i spelled acsessed right) via control panel and there could be freind request pms that have the subject called freind request so someone can request to be freinds
the whole friend thing is fine, there doesnt need to be a request, someone wants to add you to their friends let them, it doesnt mean you have to add them to your friends