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Posted Apr 11, '13 at 6:11pm

AceofSky

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Relationship Question?
A Senior asking out a Freshmen?
Senior boy asking out a Frosh girl?
Senior girl asking out a Frosh boy?

....I mean....it's an 18 year old asking out a 14 year old.
What's AG's opinion on this?

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 6:17pm

Salvidian

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A Senior asking out a Freshmen?

I don't recommend this.

Senior boy asking out a Frosh girl?

Sometimes. Here, for the most part, couples are comprised of an older guy and a younger gal, though the couple I'm a part of is opposite.

Senior girl asking out a Frosh boy?

I don't recommend this.

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 6:34pm

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....I mean....it's an 18 year old asking out a 14 year old.

No. That just isn't right.

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 7:07pm

pangtongshu

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A Senior asking out a Freshmen?

I don't recommend this.

I'm kinda with Sal on this..as painful as it is for me to say this (curse you, attractive Freshmen).
First off..you have your peers to think about. Usually relationships of this caliber are not viewed with a very positive note..at least on the Senior's end..for stooping to Freshman level
Also..keep in mind, you are about to head off to college while the Freshman still has all of High School to go through. That is quite an interesting, albeit very risky, relationship setting.

Senior boy asking out a Frosh girl?

Sometimes

With this..it more so depends on the girl than the guy..but with the guy usually the group he is in comes into play.
Some groups would be more accepting of a girl who was more..how do I put this..trashy, ratchet, "swaggy", etc
Other groups would be more accepting if the Freshman was on a more mature level than her fellow Freshmen
Still..you still have that whole "She's a freshman" thing going on

Senior girl asking out a Frosh boy?

I don't recommend this.

Well..if you are the guy..you will definitely get an enormous amount of respect from your other Freshmen buddies. Though, keep in mind, the Senior and her friends will probably look down at you

....I mean....it's an 18 year old asking out a 14 year old.

No. That just isn't right.

FUN THING TO THINK ABOUT! =D
If you are a senior dating a freshman..when you were a freshman..she/he was in 6th grade

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 9:40pm

Bronze

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An 18 year old (mostly males) could get into a lot of freaking trouble if he is ever caught doing anything besides smiling at a 14 year old. Best to just avoid that temptation.

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 9:42pm

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FUN THING TO THINK ABOUT! =D
If you are a senior dating a freshman..when you were a freshman..she/he was in 6th grade

Just to think about... But once it gets real. WOO-WEE xD

(mostly males)

It's always us...

 

Posted Apr 11, '13 at 11:31pm

pangtongshu

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An 18 year old (mostly males) could get into a lot of freaking trouble if he is ever caught doing anything besides smiling at a 14 year old.

Aww yea. Gonna smile at 'em all day long *wink wink*

It's always us...

Let's be honest..if you are a freshman guy and just got out of a relationship with a girl that is a Senior..you are probably going to brag about it to your friends rather than play the victim card

 

Posted Apr 12, '13 at 4:41am

Strop

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I don't have any clue about what this Senior and Freshmen is... I assume it's high school and the equivalent of year 12 and 9 respectively.

Or in ages, 18 on 14? Legally in Australia that's straddling age of consent. When this happens, legally, you can have up to a difference of 4 years in age before any sexual activity is automatically declared statutory rape, and further assessment is at the discretion of jurisprudence, CPO etc. Statistically and anecdotally speaking, I've seen 19 and 14 happen a bit and it's almost invariably predatory or abusive, so it's not surprising that this is viewed in a pretty dim light. You'd probably get a few ephebophile insults hurled your way.

My personal take? You're all young and stupid and prone to making errors and horrendously bad judgement calls :P To racially profile, "white society" tends to encourage learning through error making (or does it?), "Asian society" (I'm allowed to say this because I'm Asian) tends to be liability averse.

Younger people are more impressionable, so are slightly-less-young people but if they're above age of consent they have a legal obligation and are expected to be aware of that, so if things go bad it's generally on the older party regardless of whether it's fair or not.

There are extreme counter-examples (there was a case where a really screwed up 11 yo was identified as the sexual aggressor of her 40-something year old carer who was justifiably terrified of her continual, explicit sexual advances seeing as they landed him in court accused of being a sexual predator), but these are obviously rare.

 

Posted Apr 12, '13 at 4:45am

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p.s. if both people are above the age of consent, then anything goes. I know colleagues who exclusively date cougars because a) neither of them are looking to settle down yet b) cougars are generally so loaded it's not funny c) there's less bull****, or so I hear. If a young guy can bear being teased about going out with a lady twice her age and essentially being an accessory/boy toy, well, why the hell not?

 

Posted Apr 12, '13 at 4:52am

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sorry for triple post I keep forgetting to write the point of what I really wanted to write:

Yes there is a bit of a gender double-standard here, again statistics may have something to do with it. It's simply less statistically likely that a heterosexual couple of significantly differing ages has an older, dominant female. It happens, though (my father was seven years my mother's junior, but it's quite different because they had already moved out and had been independent for several years before they even met each other).

But that gender double standard isn't necessarily so stark as one may think: sure, people really worry for an 18 year old girl who goes out with a 42 year old guy (again I know an example of this), but are more prone to merely ridicule the 18 yo guy who goes out with, say, Madonna, seeing as guys are generally seen as being the aggressor... because that's where the stats are most skewed. The older you get, however, the less this matters, though my 66 year old family friend celebrity musician marrying a 30 year old music scholar did raise a few eyebrows. (Says the guy who is used to going out with people 4+ years his senior then ends up with a girl his age).

 
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