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Posted May 22, '13 at 9:26am

idigit

idigit

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Ok answers.

she told authorities and her parents. The same kid attempted to to do it to other girls. so its true.

Yeah it was a pact. I sure as hell will remember and adhere to it. I dont know about her. i think she will.

yes all that is true about the guy

 

Posted May 22, '13 at 10:20am

nichodemus

nichodemus

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Knight

If we dated now, it would sputter out sooner based on lack of responsibility and maturity. Also neither of us have had too many dating experiences(besides her being sexually assaulted at knife point by her boyfriend last year), so she said that we need to explore other people and make mistakes.
Basically we said that in 11th-12th grade, if we still liked each other, we would try it as a more longterm thing rather than a short term fling.

I'm going to break some hard truths here, but yes, at least you realised:

Personally i truly believe i was friendzoned.

The fact that she accepted a date with someone else might not mean anything, since one-off dates don't mean anything, provided that when you meant ''ask out'', it was a solitary date. She accepted a date. That speaks volumes. It shows that at least she's interested.

I personally think that the ''pact'' is nothing more than a pacifier for you. Girls won't outright reject you most of the time. Most are nicer creatures than we give them credit for, and they would at least want a diplomatic way of ending things, which is what she did. If she's forcing you to wait at least a couple of years, face it, you've been friendzoned. Girls might back out of starting a relationship and still like you, but in this case, she clearly has other interests, upon whom she somehow is not going to use the maturity card against.

If a woman likes you enough to respect you, she will not go out with other people. If a woman likes you enough to want a future relationship, and is not ready now, she would make it obvious to you that she will be available, by not going out almost immediately with another guy.

But lately we have gotten in some fights and have boycotted each other in both speech and acknowledgment of each others presence(which is hard because we are neighbors and carpool).

All she freaking does is talk about her new boyfriend and how perfect he is. Also, she made me give a speech of recommendation about her new boyfriend to her dad.

Big big signs of friendzone ok? Firstly, the fact that you fight like a couple without being one, means you're a friend. Secondly, if she talks about other guys, in a way that shows she likes him, forget it! It's alright if she talks about guys that she can't get (Liking that sports star, that movie star!), but if she moans about her boyfriend, you're insanely friendzoned.

Either i am just sensitive to this because i am jealous, or she is being a b****

She just doesn't like you enough mate. Honestly to sum up, most of the time, if a girl likes you, she will give off signs, perhaps subtle ones, but enough for you to pick up. She won't date another guy right in front of you, and continue talking to you all the time, making you hang on. Even if she does like you, honestly, would you want a girl that hangs onto several guys at the same time, weighing her options? A girl who likes you can and might make you wait, which girl does not have her insecurities and qualms, even if she really is interested? But a girl who makes herself available to others, and not to you, is not worth it.

Take the next part with a pinch of salt:

But look, if you really want to get her, which might not be the case after a few more years, then do some things. Don't ever show your jealousies, your immense liking for her, or she'll know that she has you on the line. You lost the power game, and the ball is in her court to do whatever she wants. Cool the interest, show her that you have other options. It drives a woman crazy, even an attached girl who liked you a smidgen, to know she's not the only one. It shows her you're independent, have your own life (which I trust you do, but you know what I mean). 

Does this work? Not all the time. But it does work. A few years back, I was in your situation. I like a girl crazily. I showed her that, and it played right into her hand. I was getting nowhere, but deeper into jealousy and friendzoning.

So, I learnt my lesson, and moved on. Went out with other girls. Lost my interest in her, which was an unforeseen effect from cooling my interest and contact with her. What happened? Now she's begging me weekly to go out with her. Turn the chase and attraction around. You want to at least have the leading part in the relationship most of the time right? Play your cards right.

We've all had our embarrassing and painful memories and experiences with the opposite sex. But the faster we learn what to do right, the more effective we get our dates.  So, good luck, post more if you need in the future.

 

Posted May 22, '13 at 7:00pm

idigit

idigit

259 posts

well more i forgot to mention because of lack of time this morning.

She tells her friends "oh i am not really into him. Its just for the eighth grade dance"
But turns around and tells me how madly in love they are.

I dont know why she could ever want to break up with him. she would have NO REASON to. He is everything a girl could want, so in that sense, she is delusional.

also, i have found someone else that really likes me, even though we dont really know each other. Well that was a month ago, and i am starting to like her now that i know her. so i hope to start something there in the future. Truthfully, i am not ready for dating yet. but maybe there is a future with this girl.

in other news, i am the DJ for the school dances now which has boosted my popularity.
but also, this group of 6th grade girls now stalks me on the bus and around my eighth grade classes. which gets annoying.

yeah nichodemus, I have the same views as you. i completely call friendzoning, which she has done to me before. meh i'll get over it. But thats like my second or third swing and a miss with girls this year.

so yeah. i believe that is it for my social life news.

 

Posted May 22, '13 at 8:12pm

pickpocket

pickpocket

3,356 posts

But thats like my second or third swing and a miss with girls this year.

Hey man, dont stress. Things dont always go as planned. Besides, who cares if you date someone in 8th grade anyways? You still have a long time ahead of you. Sometimes its nice just to forget about it. I remember in like 7th grade I liked this one girl and got hung up on it for a while. Dont let it get to you. Dont let little crushes like that become incredible important, and dont obsess over them. Its 8th grade man, you still have a lot of life to live.

 

Posted May 23, '13 at 12:19am

idigit

idigit

259 posts

I know:( i have become a hypocrite.

sometimes,
correction a lot of the times, I feel socially stunted compared to other kids.

My top 5 best friends are all adults. seriously. I find kids and teens immature, inappropriate, and irresponsible. Especially guys. They are disgusting, rude, and disrespectful.

so of the peer friends i have, 85% of them are girls. call me gay but whatever, i already get it from school. Just because i am nice, clean, and have chivalry does not make me gay.

also just because i enjoy broadway shows and certain tv shows that arent popular with the male population doesnt mean i am gay.-_-

 

Posted May 23, '13 at 5:23am

nichodemus

nichodemus

11,884 posts

Knight

My top 5 best friends are all adults. seriously. I find kids and teens immature, inappropriate, and irresponsible. Especially guys. They are disgusting, rude, and disrespectful.

Okay......well if you prefer that and go with that mindset, no one's going to blame you, but you're in for a hard time socialising.

so of the peer friends i have, 85% of them are girls. call me gay but whatever, i already get it from school. Just because i am nice, clean, and have chivalry does not make me gay.

It's an image that people often conjure, but can sadly be true, hence it still sticks. There's nothing you can change about it.

But thats like my second or third swing and a miss with girls this year.

If you don't ask, you don't get. At least you ask. At least you can learn, unlike men who never even open their mouths.

 

Posted May 30, '13 at 7:59pm

kingofwar1234

kingofwar1234

461 posts

I like this girl...

I'm an 8th grade guy, who likes a girl. My friend asked what she thought of me.

She told him that I'm too serious and I'm annoying... Anyone help? Much appreciated... I know. Not much info. But you know. Gotta try...

 

Posted May 31, '13 at 6:21am

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,277 posts

My friend asked what she thought of me.

Did your friend do this out of his own curiosity...or did you ask him to do so?

Because someone doing such a thing isn't a very good idea. It shows a lack of confidence on your part.

She told him that I'm too serious and I'm annoying... Anyone help?

I don't really know what to help you on..it seems pretty clear cut. The best you could do is be less serious and annoying?

Though, to be a bit nice...saying such things doesn't outright eliminate the possibility of her being attracted to you.

I'm an 8th grade

Oh yeah..and that's another thing..you are in 8th grade. Take it from someone who had a relationship starting in 8th grade...take your time with the dating scene. Wait until you are in high school until such things...you are young and hormonal...let your body (and mind) mature a bit before it all

 

Posted May 31, '13 at 1:10pm

nichodemus

nichodemus

11,884 posts

Knight

She told him that I'm too serious and I'm annoying... Anyone help? Much appreciated... I know. Not much info. But you know. Gotta try...

Need more information.

 

Posted Jun 2, '13 at 6:14pm

kingofwar1234

kingofwar1234

461 posts

Did your friend do this out of his own curiosity...or did you ask him to do so?

He did it out of curiousity. I don't know why. We were talking about who we liked earlier that day. That's probably why. :P . 

Though, to be a bit nice...saying such things doesn't outright eliminate the possibility of her being attracted to you.

I realize this. But I don't know how I can be less serious and annoying. I just act how I usually do with everyone else in my school. If anything I think I'm a funny guy who isn't serious at all.

 
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