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Posted Aug 28, '13 at 9:57am

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,236 posts

We discussed it so as to agree on a mutual option. She pushed for bowling..and I agreed.

And thank you danielo ^-^

I do hope you all luck for future endeavors D=

 

Posted Aug 30, '13 at 10:25am

daleks

daleks

3,183 posts

I like her already. Bowling is awesome.

 

Posted Sep 1, '13 at 5:12am

danielo

danielo

1,370 posts

Well? How it went? We want to hear everything!

EVERYTHING!

(Joking, but do tell us how it went please?)

 

Posted Sep 3, '13 at 3:35pm

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,236 posts

Date is set for this Sunday..so the beans will be spilled then =p

 

Posted Sep 6, '13 at 1:02am

idigit

idigit

259 posts

hey peoples. im back again. this time with a somewhat more embarrassing story.

so in my last update, I said that the girl who friendzoned me with the "pact" and I were fighting, and that i had acquired a girlfriend.

Well the first girl and I made up, and the second girl and I just sputtered out. I now realize that I am "going out" with this girl out of pity and guilt because i just cant say no. This girl is not challenging me intellectually and it is driving me insane. And we NEVER see each other(movie date didnt happen, I got hospitalized in greece) and we rarely talk.

so as soon as i realized this(somewhere around july 4th) i conspired with the first girl who said in short that she cant wait any longer and she knows i cant, so she wants to screw the "wait till sophmore year" and attempt dating ASAP after school starts.

so i need to 'break up' with the second girl. but im a softie, so i cant facetime her to do this, because if i see her upset, then ill break down-_-. but over text is so hurtful. i dont have a phone that calls so thats out of the question.

but i now have mixed feelings about the first one. plus i just started HS and there are so many more opportunities for me especially because i am at an advanced school, so everyone is very intelligent and smart. this girl is smart, but i now realize how much of a lying b**** she is sometimes.

help?

 

Posted Sep 6, '13 at 1:04am

idigit

idigit

259 posts

Something i didnt mention, girl #1 goes to a school where the 90% of guys are gay, no joke. so she doesnt have options whereas i do.

 

Posted Sep 9, '13 at 1:44pm

danielo

danielo

1,370 posts

Well Pangtung?

And for you idigit - this is complex. I understand your difficulty. But remember, "There are many fishes in the sea". Most likely you will break up with both of them. So take it easy. If its not quite simple, i belive (i might be wrong, so dont count on me), and you have to force it to happen, well... i think that mean that something is rotten deep in. Think about it. And please dont take it as truth from Sinai.

 

Posted Sep 16, '13 at 7:46pm

Reddash

Reddash

76 posts

Alright I've got a bit of an issue. So I've been seeing this girl for a few months now, right? I made my move about a month after she broke up with her boyfriend 'cuase he was cheating on her. We did stuff together over the summer like I would go over to her place and we'd hang out in her garage, or I invited her over around 9' to just sit by the fire with me in my back yard with some music playing. There was this thing down in Missouri, some of you may have heard of, The Steubenville catholic youth conferences? Now her parents were making her go because they are super religious and such, and she wasn't to thrilled by this due to a number of reasons I'll not go into. Now this was before I had asked her out(sorry this part didn't come first) and she came to me asking if I would go with her because she didn't want to go alone. Her family was also friends with the local organizers of the trip, so they had a free spot set up for me if I said yes. Naturally, I did. I asked her out on the bus on the way there(I live in the upper northwest) and she said yes, from that point you know the rest. But now if we fast forward to now, we have me dumped in the middle of the school day and just kind of sulking for the rest of the day and then at the end I walked over to her and she wouldn't even look at me. now when I say that I don't mean a superior "I don't need you" kind of not looking, I mean a "I'm embarrassed and ashamed so please don't notice me" not looking. when I got her to acknowledge me I only said one word, "Why?" and see looked down, not wanting to meet my gaze again, and responded in one word, "Cody."(the cheating ex) With that I turned and left, got home and typed this up after a few hours. I don't know what to do, I feel used and betrayed, and yet I still care for her. I'm just so confused, and I'm sorry this is so long, I just have a long and vivid memory of all this.

 

Posted Sep 16, '13 at 8:20pm

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,236 posts

Well Pangtung?

Come on dani D=

*pang
or pangtongshu

Anywho..date fell through. Tried to reschedule but she didn't answer about that. We hung out and stuff since..but I guess it ain't happening. Ah well.

I made my move about a month after she broke up with her boyfriend

****..patience. Kudos.

and we'd hang out in her garage

wat
Though..I shouldn't say anything..with my reputation from a number of months ago. pick might remember if he drops in here again.

There was this thing down in Missouri, some of you may have heard of, The Steubenville catholic youth conferences?

da fuq..when did this happen.

With that I turned and left, got home and typed this up after a few hours. I don't know what to do, I feel used and betrayed, and yet I still care for her. I'm just so confused, and I'm sorry this is so long, I just have a long and vivid memory of all this.

I feel ya..been in very similar situation. Here's what I gotta say
1) Feel lucky you got closure. Trust me.
2) It's going to suck. I'm going to be honest. It's going to hurt..and it's going to be a ***** to get through. But it is not, by any means, the end of the world. Find hobbies..hang out with friends..do things so you aren't sitting alone with your mind to wonder.
Don't let yourself get so caught up on the relationship. It is ok to reflect on it..reflections are a great way to learn about oneself and learn from experience..but don't think about how "wonderful it was" or how "happy you were", because then you won't allow yourself to move on and become even happier.

 

Posted Sep 16, '13 at 10:04pm

Reddash

Reddash

76 posts

Thanks Pang, I do trust you on the closure bit, last time I didn't get any. and I believe the conference was in July. and now that you mentioned it, what's wrong with the garage?
But really, thanks I don't have a ton of people to talk to at the moment,(when we first knew each other we were just two people we knew could trust each other) so it's nice when I can be more or less anonymous  and still get help.

 
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