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Posted May 23, '12 at 10:32am

thepunisher93

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i just talked about another way. telling someone who cares, having lots of friends, or just enduring until the bully and the bullied both go to their own paths.

NObody actually cares
Friends aint that big of a help
If u are such a wuss, you deserve to be bullied
 

Posted May 23, '12 at 10:57am

toemas

toemas

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NObody actually cares
Friends aint that big of a help
If u are such a wuss, you deserve to be bullied


allot of the time that is the case teachers try to shield kids from anything that could potentially harm them so they become lil wusses that get bullied all the time
 

Posted May 23, '12 at 11:39am

Kasic

Kasic

5,740 posts

My thoughts on bullying and how to deal with it vary depending upon what the bully is doing and why.

If they're just making fun of you, ignore them and get over it.

If they're physically harming/attacking you, then it's better to get others involved.

I have never run into a situation where violence would really have solved anything, it would only have made it worse because then they would retaliate. Usually, in my experience, bullies get kind of put off when you just shoot them a dark look and walk off like you really don't give a crap what they say, and they're wasting their time to even try and bother you. For the more persistent ones that don't give up after that, telling them off (in a non whiny/fearful voice) finished the matter.

Really, the key is to not be afraid of them. They won't continue doing it if they aren't getting the result they wanted. So while punisher is technically right in that you have to show them who's boss, that doesn't mean you break off a glass bottle top or sharpen a stick...

Of course...I may just be very scary...

 

Posted May 23, '12 at 3:32pm

thebluerabbit

thebluerabbit

5,378 posts

NObody actually cares
Friends aint that big of a help
If u are such a wuss, you deserve to be bullied


then the first 2 things you said are more your case and your enviroment. many people care if both you and them are good enough people (and many people are actually better then you might think). friends are a great help and unless they actually try to help you with at least giving you advice they arent real friends. and if you really deserve that some people deserve to be bullied you arent that different from bullies yourself.

Really, the key is to not be afraid of them. They won't continue doing it if they aren't getting the result they wanted. So while punisher is technically right in that you have to show them who's boss, that doesn't mean you break off a glass bottle top or sharpen a stick...


agreed but sometimes the bullies feel good enough if they can see your in pain. and most normal people would show fear OR anger while being in pain which if your physically weak doesnt matter or make things worse.
 

Posted May 23, '12 at 7:45pm

Somewhat49

Somewhat49

1,669 posts

then the first 2 things you said are more your case and your enviroment. many people care if both you and them are good enough people (and many people are actually better then you might think). friends are a great help and unless they actually try to help you with at least giving you advice they arent real friends. and if you really deserve that some people deserve to be bullied you arent that different from bullies yourself.

In my experience as well, no one hs really cared if you're bullied or not, all that mattered was that you wouldn't be the one getting bullied, so what I used to do to prevent that was just to laugh with them when they make a joke and be friendly, or if they bully me the first day, I'll make sure they don't continue to bully me if they try the second day by just doing something that draws alot of attention, but only do it once and not agian just to show that you aren't gonna take it and doing it agian would show weakness because it is like you are unsure if you made your point or not.
 

Posted May 23, '12 at 8:47pm

thepunisher93

thepunisher93

1,863 posts

In my experience as well, no one hs really cared if you're bullied or not, all that mattered was that you wouldn't be the one getting bullied, so what I used to do to prevent that was just to laugh with them when they make a joke and be friendly, or if they bully me the first day, I'll make sure they don't continue to bully me if they try the second day by just doing something that draws alot of attention, but only do it once and not agian just to show that you aren't gonna take it and doing it agian would show weakness because it is like you are unsure if you made your point or not.

right, show them you ain't takin **** from nobody and they'll back off
 

Posted May 23, '12 at 11:59pm

thebluerabbit

thebluerabbit

5,378 posts

In my experience as well, no one hs really cared if you're bullied or not, all that mattered was that you wouldn't be the one getting bullied, so what I used to do to prevent that was just to laugh with them when they make a joke and be friendly, or if they bully me the first day, I'll make sure they don't continue to bully me if they try the second day by just doing something that draws alot of attention, but only do it once and not agian just to show that you aren't gonna take it and doing it agian would show weakness because it is like you are unsure if you made your point or not.


well in my experience it were the people who helped me. i had good enough friends and was a lovable person that even those who werent friends but only classmates wanted to help. im sure my class isnt an exception and that many other people would get help from their friends. maybe its embarassing for someone to ask for help? did you even talk to your friends about that problem?

and what you said sounded more like verbal bullying and not physical one. there are different forms of power and if bullies see that you are important to people they will think twice before making too many enemies
 

Posted May 24, '12 at 6:21am

Somewhat49

Somewhat49

1,669 posts

did you even talk to your friends about that problem?

It really wasn't a problem since it would only last 2 days tops, the ones who were already being bullied continuously were at a point were you couldn't help them without starting a real fight and no one wanted that.
and what you said sounded more like verbal bullying and not physical one.

The just laugh at their jokes were for verbal bullying, but the rest of my suggestio works for both types of bullying because physical usually dosen't start out extream because they are just testing you to see how much you would take.
there are different forms of power and if bullies see that you are important to people they will think twice before making too many enemies

Like I said they never really made enemies because it would just last 1-2 days and only go longer if the person shwed that they were weak, and ususally they didn't have much friends so really had no power.
 

Posted May 24, '12 at 7:22pm

xAyjAy

xAyjAy

4,903 posts

NObody actually cares


including you?

Friends aint that big of a help


you mean ten friends with ten friends with ten friends (and so on and so on) wont scare the bully? i mean, which bully is mad enough to fight so many people without help?

If u are such a wuss, you deserve to be bullied


you mean if someone shows a weakness he/she deserves it to be bullied? dont judge about others and the way how they should get punished, you arent god.

allot of the time that is the case teachers try to shield kids from anything that could potentially harm them so they become lil wusses that get bullied all the time


so you mean teachers should look away if two or more beat you nearly to death instead of helping you? and what would you do if they suddenly had guns? shouting for help? oh, wait, the teachers is looking away while they shoot at your legs so you cant run away. people like you make me sick. if someone is in danger he/she NEEDS help to break out of the circle of violence and hate!

My thoughts on bullying and how to deal with it vary depending upon what the bully is doing and why.

If they're just making fun of you, ignore them and get over it.

If they're physically harming/attacking you, then it's better to get others involved.


best advice since this thread was made.

I have never run into a situation where violence would really have solved anything, it would only have made it worse because then they would retaliate.


thats like putting fuel into a campfire.

it would help if you have many adult people around you. or many many friends to help you. try to get help, dont try to solve the problem with violence because that will make things worse and give them more reasons to bully you. talk with people, in the worst case with the principal, your boss or with the police to get help.
 

Posted May 24, '12 at 9:15pm

EmperorPalpatine

EmperorPalpatine

9,477 posts

you mean ten friends with ten friends with ten friends (and so on and so on) wont scare the bully?

If they're all cowering in fear, then nope. But having them as witnesses would help later.

it would help if you have many adult people around you.

Because that's so cool...

in the worst case with the principal, your boss or with the police to get help.

Most of the time, that won't do anything. Unless you've got complete proof that the other person did it, or an adult was right there at the time, it's your word against theirs.
 
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