do you guys have any coping stratagies for dealing with your best friend getting killed because the punching a wall tactic only got me a broken knuckle.
no I won't go to jail for assualt because he has a record so if he goes to the cops he will go to jail and I'll probably just get fined for aggrivated assualt
I would definitely suggest counseling. I've been to counseling quite a few times for different reasons, and I've gotten a lot out of it. Just talking to a person who has nothing to do with the situation can really help. Immersing yourself in something positive, like a hobby or something fun that you enjoy can be good too, but when you're in a funk like that, sometimes it's hard to find something you enjoy. I would suggest looking into grief counseling, and if you can, get into something physical. Working out, doing karate, or some other sport, all can be very good outlets.
What DM has said sounds good specifically for you, BASHA, given that most people are quite aware that different people cope in different ways.
For example, when my father was killed in a freak car accident some years ago, my coping strategy was not to react at all, which freaked most people out! However, bottling things up may not be the best way to go. Starting out by locking yourself in a room and yelling into a pillow is something popularly suggested to me.
For example, when my father was killed in a freak car accident some years ago, my coping strategy was not to react at all
You mean shut down? Was this when you were close to Teenager years? Start with the School Counselor first then keep moving up the professional level till you see the light.
I know that it is unhealthy, but I just bottle up my emotions, it is not for everyone else to deal with. Try your hand (no pun intended) at writing, poetry, or something like that. That's what I use for my release.
The best thing I would recommend for you is counseling. This is not always an affordable options, but many schools offer this to students. Or if something dramatic happens at the school, they will offer it specially for a short time.
If this is not an option, I would suggest spending time with your friends. Focus on the important people around you, and it may help comfort you.
