Well yeah there is a difference when both are playin online some have more skilled players than others and the graphics i dont think there's a difference.
Well from my experience the PS3 has a majority of little kids who suck, and the 360 has a majority of skilled older players. PS3 used online after the xbox because they realized the failure of the PS2 and besides, Microsoft is all in Internet, so xbox live is very good compared to the PS3.