The strongest taste I've ever had is a direct bite out of a habanero pepper grown in my yard and totally untreated. all the store-bought or restaurant peppers are treated while being grown to dilute the flavor. If you grow them yourself, that is . . . not the case.
My tongue wads burning for an hour and I drank a gallon of milk, lol. I absolutely love hot food.
I could be wrong, but I think I heard that liquids actually don't make it go away, you just don't notice it while drinking. Its best to eat something else instead.
Milk helps, though I've heard the best thing to counter spiciness is yogurt.