I don't know about other people, but my mom is wayyyyyy to overcontrolling. Just a few minutes ago, my mom checked my grades and I have all a's and b's, and she was like, "if you don't get those b's up i'll restrict you from something." Most parents would be just fine with their kid getting c's and b's. Also, say one of my brothers or sisters starts to talk/debate about something, she comes in, yells at them to stop fighting, and in doing so, causes a fight. Anyone else have a parent like this?
She's not overcontrolling. She is your mother. She is njot doing anything to you, other then making your future secure.
You might complain about her, but you love her, and she does everything thing for you. You could do nothing without her, and You know that. She is not over controlling, seeing as she Contorlls your life. She brought you into the world, and she can take you out.
Some people may think my mom is, but is over-controlling really a bad thing? Let's face it, a lot of kids are bad, and when parents watch over their kids they are just protecting them and making sure they're okay.
my parents don't care enough in my opinion. lets say i get home from a friends house at 8:30 way after dark. they just ask where i was and that i missed dinner. Or when i almost got a D on my report card they just told me to study harder next time and that they might bring me in for some help before school. if they cared they would stop letting me do what ever i wanted. its good alot of the time but my grades suffer sometimes.
Those are good grades, but why would you want to skimp on school? its the building of your future. Why not get those B's up to A's? Your mom is just trying to push you so you can learn the proper self discipline and self motivation that you will need in college.
After reading this, I see that there can be two sides to this conflict. I think that being overprotective is not always the best way to be brought up, since you are essentially shielded from the truths of life.
I can see how you're annoyed Kasic, but if you think about it, you won't get anywhere by talking to us here. Either talk to her, (don't say she's overprotective for a talk like this, you just have to try,) or do what she wants you to do. If you do exactly what she desires, like getting all A's or not arguing, you might like her more because she will be less strict.
Lol, I'm 13 and I've never been in a physical fight xD
My parents are very lenient, and I'm not worse for it. I've been playing M games since I was 11, been watching R rated movies forever, and I've been watching South Park for about 4 years now. AS a result, I'm actually less profane and violent than most of the kids around me, lol. My parents are really safety freaks, though, lol. My mom used to not let me go to arcades with friends without an adult by us because she thought that bunches of violent stoners always clustered at arcades xD
My future will not be very secure if she never lets me decide or drives me insane.
Why not get those B's up to A's?
Because I get so utterly bored in school I end up asleep for 90% of the day.
She should've said "if you get those Bs to As I'll reward you with ____________________________". That might motivate you make.
She's tried that before, it doesn't make a differnce, I get so bored I become the most apathetic person you will ever see. I just can't find a point in doing pages upon pages of busy work. I've even tested, my teachers give out homework and then "check" if you did it. I just showed them an old piece of homework and I got full credit. If they don't care about the assignment, then why should I? It obviously wasn't important.
Either talk to her, (don't say she's overprotective for a talk like this, you just have to try,) or do what she wants you to do. If you do exactly what she desires, like getting all A's or not arguing, you might like her more because she will be less strict.
She's not strict, just extremely controlling. If it's not her way, you get hell over it for weeks. Even if it's something like the order in which you clean the bathrooms. I've tried talking to her about it and it turns into something that makes no sense in the end because she just can't see my side, and don't say I haven't tried, she DOES NOT listen.
Anyways, the point of this topic is to discuss how parents act, not me specifically. I just used myself as an example.
Dear god. Manipulative bitch more than over-controlling.
Every small thing that makes no difference has to be the way that she says, and if not then she'll go off yelling and complaining about other things that are wrong.
Not even the end though. When she complains about things, she'll complain about how she's (for an example) put the bathroom towels a certain way, and that other people haven't been acknowledging the fact that when they used a towel(s) they were a certain way, and just put them back some random way because that's what normal do, and she'll complain about how she put them that certain way and they were mixed up day after day for (insert some strangely remembered number of days).
My mother is not the example of all mothers. However, she is a manipulative, passive, pestering "female-dog".
I don't, My mom lets me do anything. If you feel she's abusing her powers as your mother then tell her she can't control your lifestyle forever, Tell her how you feel about her controlling your life. Who knows, She might just understand...
