There's a time where some people reach an age where they think back, "How? How could I have been so mean to BLANK?" What I'm trying to say is, how can some people care on how someone thinks, talks , acts. Or how someone looks, or their religious views, who they like or love ( Didn't know how to put that, sexuality? ) and more. I see this happen and HEAR it all the time at school or anywhere. It happened to me AND it still does.
Getting to know someone can be such a great thing, but when you take a different route, such as NOT getting to know someone, you would probably start judging. Now I'm sure that most people have judged, I for one have, but NEVER have actually really meant these things. That's because I don't even know them yet. The people who make fun of how you are are just people who don't know you for you yet, or just don't like it how you are. Which means give up on them and find the people who care for you!
I'm told at school that I'm gay. They say I act gay, dress gay, and that I just need to 'come out'. But what I do is ignore, because all I'm doing is being me. I have a girlfriend of 6 monthes and those hateful comments don't mean a thing to me. Live the life YOU want to live, don't let people take your happiness for their enjoyment of humiliating you.
Don't take in the hurtful, take in the love,happiness and those that care.
There's a time where some people reach an age where they think back, "How? How could I have been so mean to BLANK?"
I completely know what you mean. When I was younger I went through a lot of sh*t at home and so was a prime dickhead to some people at school. At a subsequent reunion last year I apologised profusely to those I'd offended, bought them a few drinks and it was all gravy.
Thing is, the people doing it to you, if they are anything like I was, are fairly hedonistic, and don't really care about the human consequences of their words and deeds.
some people like to say things to hurt you like if you die we make a party because nobody needs you some people say that to me in the past, but i know that they say it only cus they was bored from themself. and i think they was scared cus they was in groups to hurt me with words or punchs/kicks but i changed my school and they annoy one of theyre "friends".
Thing is, the people doing it to you, if they are anything like I was, are fairly hedonistic, and don't really care about the human consequences of their words and deeds.
Which is exactly what I'm talking about! ANd they only hate because they aren't like me or you or anyone that was or IS picked on.
I'm rather apathetic sometimes, so comments never really bother me anymore. Granted, I pretty much go to a school where everyone is friends with everyone else.
I do judge people sometimes though, usually based on first impressions... and first impressions are about the biggest impressions anyone can make on you, so, yeah
Wouldn't repressing those comments just lead to more inner turmoil rather than accepting them as opinions of the other people?
It's not like were trying to make them mad or anything trying to talk back to them, but maybe that's what a person in this kind of position should do. And they aren't really opinions, more like comments related to what they THINK we are, but really, we aren't.
And they aren't really opinions, more like comments related to what they THINK we are, but really, we aren't.
How are opinions not perceptual and dependent on what you THINK someone is?
It's not like were trying to make them mad or anything trying to talk back to them, but maybe that's what a person in this kind of position should do.
You don't need to talk or make them mad, just accept them as people's opinions.
Now that I look at it your second paragraphs have alot of controversial things.
but when you take a different route, such as NOT getting to know someone, you would probably start judging.
You always judge and stereotype based off the theory of what evidence you see in a person. Even if you know them.
The people who make fun of how you are are just people who don't know you for you yet, or just don't like it how you are. Which means give up on them and find the people who care for you!
So, if you can't resolve differences give up and run?
You say don't judge, then call others that they humiliate you, then say don't take in whatever people say that hurts you (JUDGING).
To top it all off you're encouraging repression which can have a number of other problems with it. Your life-plan of only seeing happiness isn't going to work out.
You always judge and stereotype based off the theory of what evidence you see in a person. Even if you know them.
Yes, BUT, is that good? No. It isn't nice at all but we all do it.
So, if you can't resolve differences give up and run?
That's not what I'm saying at all. What I'm saying is that ifi you CAN'T resolve it, THEN give up JUST on friendship, I never said on hating them.. It's only that I wrote this at 3 in the morning so I forgot some things.
You say don't judge, then call others that they humiliate you, then say don't take in whatever people say that hurts you (JUDGING).
I don't quite get this.
To top it all off you're encouraging repression which can have a number of other problems with it. Your life-plan of only seeing happiness isn't going to work out.
I am most defenitly not encouraging repression. And all I'm saying, really, is be you. Not try to get all technical with you, but you seem to go too into context. This was just supposed to tell that, and really only that.
As I said before, you go into this too much. When your actually being you, that means being yourself with people, if you were yourself by yourself, then no one would know. If that makes sense.
