ok so one of my best friends sorta got into a bit of a fist fight. it ended with me un harmed and him having a bloody nose. both of us pissed as hell.
he left my party went home, i cooled down sorta was like ok well be fine in like a day, then his mom comes running towards me out of her car yelling, "hes coming up with a wrench i couldnt stop him!" and then i see him running around the corner running at me with a wrench trying to kill me.
i couldnt believe it.... it went way farther then it needed to go. not that many punches were thrown anyway.
so i booked it out of there running through the neighborhoods through corners. apparently he stopped soon after i turned a corner and dropped the wrench and broke into tears embarrassed. and i ran so far so fast that i was completly lost.
so i hitched a ride from a dude who was more then happy to take me back to my party knowing that i almost died. as soon as he dropped me back off, the person who tried to kill me just left.
he came back later and apologized, and i pretended to be cool you know. but i really cant forgive him when he tried to kill me. its impossible to avoid him, but honestly i hate seeing him now.
i guess what im trying to get at is, am i wrong for completly not wanting anything to do with him? am i wrong for having him dead to me inside?
ya but either way youll be fine and everyone should know that its all in good fun and humor. i took his stuff in humor but when i do it back its a offense and a reason to try and kill me.
ya and when she started walking i thought she was going to like lecture me on the fight or something like that..... her telling me that he was coming back with a wrench sorta took me for shock.
You should follow your mind. Whether you trust him, or not. And if you do, just watch your back and tell him he's a c*nt the next time he shoots you in the back with an airsoft gun.
Wait, guys, you should probably have some solid guidelines before somebody gets seriously hurt.
1) A "roblem" is something that carries lasting negative consequences. I know most of you aren't capable of understanding the importance of consequences at this stage, that's just age. But if what I just said annoyed you, you could at least try!
2) Therefore I would say that zombiefreak shouldn't have beat up his friend especially if he's weak. Nothing good ever comes out of that, not even if he's running his mouth off. I doubt that would even have made people think any the worse of you, and if anybody ever asked you about it you could just set the record straight.
3) delossantosj has a different kind of problem, however, and that is whether he can trust his friend not to blow a gasket. In this case it stopped before it got too far, so I think there's plenty of grounds for forgiveness here, but as a friend you should probably recommend to your friend (nicely) that he seek professional help. For everybody's safety, particularly your own.
You guys are young and vigorous... but swinging fists and feet won't get you very far. True strength comes from knowing how to stop fights before they even begin, and only acting in self-defence. Bruce Lee is a particularly fine role model here: he is a master of the art of fighting without fighting.
It's not fighting that's the problem methinks, we are an aggressive people and we need to let it out one way or another. The problem is the senseless fighting that hurts someone for no reason.
Well, to follow from what I said, then, I'm actually quite a hot-tempered person myself. On the rare occasion several forumgoers have probably seen this. But it's very uncool to watch, so I try not to.
Even with natural aggression, it's always worth thinking about one fact: venting is one thing but it will lead to regret. The more attractive alternative is exercising power.
With the exception of my brother (and this is just what siblings do, so that doesn't count), I've never been in a fight before. But this doesn't mean I haven't been under threat of a fight. The most notable example was the school bully, some muscular jock, who liked to brag about how he'd go to bars and start something. I never believed him and made that very clear when he decided to pick on me. He said all kinds of things and made all kinds of threats to try and provoke me, and even tried to hit me, but this only conveyed that I was the one who had control of the situation, and the first person to strike would be the one who had already lost. Eventually he withdrew amidst public spectacle, much to his humiliation and my gain.
Having practiced martial-arts for many years, I will never strike a person unless I actually do worry that they might cause me significant harm, and fortunately this has yet to be the case. To me, that's what day-to-day living in martial-arts is about (the competitive world of martial-arts where you are code bound to always face new challengers and fight stronger people is something else entirely.)
I think you should forgive him for now but if he does it again, you should ignore him as a person.
It sounds like the usual advice, but it's actually an important piece of advice. Maybe your friend just wanted to kill you because he was already really angry at that moment. That's how I am sometimes.
