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Ernie15
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I've noticed the increase in threads being made about problems with relationships and dating. Now, I have no problem with the subject matter. No, my problem is with the amount of threads people are creating about it.

Judging by all these threads being made about the same thing, it's safe to say it's inevitable for these questions to be asked; and since the answers to these relationship/dating questions are generally very similar, putting all the questions in one thread saves time and posting.

No, this is not a thread where you specifically ask me for advice; I don't know very much about this subject. I'm simply the guy who has created the thread so you can post your questions for anybody to answer.

So if you have a question about dating or relationships, or anything along those lines, ask it here, wait for someone to reply here, and don't make a new thread about it!

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devoutskeptic
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Thanks for the responses to my previous post.

To clear a few things up. Girls don't break up with me. I am not the stereotypical gamer; I am very skilled in attracting women and keeping them around as long as I wish. Not to toot my own horn but I am good looking, smart, and well-spoken. However, I find sex with one girl boring after a while. Unless they are willing to submit to my porn imitating sexual experiences. Which is why I asked the question I asked.

I really do care about the girl I am with, but I care about myself more. If she will not let me put it in her butt anymore I don't know if I can continue dating her. Her vagina is very nice and I still enjoy penetrating it very much, but it is not enough to keep me monogamous.

Call me shallow, selfish, and a pig all you want. Perhaps you can make me understand how a relationship could be more enjoyable if I approach it differently, rather then my usual total domination technique.

devoutskeptic
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Apparently you can't delete comments in this forum? Sorry for the repost.

GoblinD
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um I dont give pickup advice.. im just telling u if she doesnt want to then dont make her its that simple.. girls just dont want to be treat like sh** thats all.

Yea I got what you said. The thing is girls very rarly want it themselves without you trying to change their mined. Even the ugliest guy in school can get the hottest girl in class with enough skill.


What, are you from the 1500s? Modern times kid, things have moved on. Many women are very independent and we're not simply here to be mans play things - relationships are all about equality, trust and respect. A girl must be 100% comfortable to be intimate with you and if you love her, you'll respect her. It's her body, if she doesn't want you doing things to her, that's her choice.

I totally saw that coming. As a lesbian i doubt you could understand this part. Its true nevertheless, total equality is not in our genes.


Girls cannot be classed as a whole, we are all individuals and it's about time you realized that - which brings in my previous statement about respect. Google it.

I know how much you loved to say this and that's why you didn't fully read my post before answering.
Jefferysinspiration
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I really do care about the girl I am with, but I care about myself more. If she will not let me put it in her butt anymore I don't know if I can continue dating her. Her vagina is very nice and I still enjoy penetrating it very much, but it is not enough to keep my monogamous.

Call me shallow, selfish, and a pig all you want. Perhaps you can make me understand how a relationship could be more enjoyable if I approach it differently, rather then my usual total domination technique.


Sexual experimentation is fine, but you should show her you're willing to wait for her to be comfortable, then she will come around to the idea.

I totally saw that coming. As a lesbian i doubt you could understand this part. Its true nevertheless, total equality is not in our genes.


I've had my fair share of boyfriends, believe you me.

I know how much you loved to say this and that's why you didn't fully read my post before answering.


I read everything you wrote, but it only took me to see you calling a girl sex slave for me to judge your character.
Ernie15
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I really do care about the girl I am with, but I care about myself more.


I can't tell if you're being serious or not, but with that attitude, I'm amazed you've gotten as far as you say you have.

Perhaps you can make me understand how a relationship could be more enjoyable if I approach it differently, rather then my usual total domination technique.


It's clear that you want one thing and one thing only. Try to look at the relationship side of the relationship and don't focus so much on the physical part. Unless it's a mutual thing, physically-based relationships don't last as long.

If this girl wants you, don't just give her higher standards. Appreciate what you have, and don't focus so much on what you can't have.

This isn't a sex advice thread. As much as I enjoy reading about other people's sex lives, this is a PG-13 forum and anything too graphic is probably going to find it's way out the back door of this thread (pun intended).
GoblinD
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I read everything you wrote, but it only took me to see you calling a girl sex slave for me to judge your character.

LOL go over my posts again then.


I've had my fair share of boyfriends, believe you me.

Yet if you are lesbian you should feel manish in many senses, isn't that kind of the definition?
RainbowGoGangster3
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um akward haha jk


I find sex with one girl boring after a while.


thats kinda sad.. why date a girl if u just want to have sex with them.. thats not right wouldnt u rather have somebody that actually loves u instead of having like a one night stand.
Jefferysinspiration
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Yet if you are lesbian you should feel manish in many senses, isn't that kind of the definition?


No, the definition is a female homosexual.
I didn't wake up and decide to be gay one day, so i have had boyfriends in the past, the whole bisexual phase.


Its not pushing her, its just getting her more horny

Dried fruit won't necessarily work and for a relationship to work you'd need to consult her and make sure she's comfortable with the experiment.

I would call it "her better self" but suit you'reself.

Her "better self" should be her when you guys are communicating, not when she's in a mood that suits yours.
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Btw Rainbow, don't get so rejective about this. In a healthy relationship the boy does the initiatives and not the girl.
This is not true. Guys can be submissive and ladies can be dominant. No problem in that.

How to I get my gf to take it in the butt on a consistent basis? :P
You go looking somewhere that isn't meant to be PG13. Your more recent post in this thread is stepping on the edge of what can be tolerated in posts here.

I would suggest you talk to her about what you want and why and how, though. Clear communication is a marvelous thing. Find out if it's negotiable or just not going to happen.
Then again...

they never like it..so it only happens for a while and then once we get out of the 'honeymoon stage' they call it quits on being my love slave and only do what is mutually enjoyable =/
If this is your point of view, then you'll probably need to come across a very submissive girl to be happy with it; mutual enjoyment is considered the whole point of relationships by the majority of people - it's not all about you and your pleasure.
GoblinD
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This is not true. Guys can be submissive and ladies can be dominant. No problem in that.

Usually that is a problem but ofc there are certain cases.


No, the definition is a female homosexual.
I didn't wake up and decide to be gay one day, so i have had boyfriends in the past, the whole bisexual phase.

Doesn't change the fact you feel manish unlike other woman in many ways. You didn't turn into a lesbian overnight when you stopped dating guys, did you? That means some manish feelings were there before that.


Don't know why you waited so much to reply to those other things btw. Again, things don't happen naturally without anyone doing anything. If the girl doesn't want the guy he can make her change her mined, its not going to change itself by talking about it.
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Usually that is a problem but ofc there are certain cases.
What do you base this assumption on? (The "usually that is a problem". What do you mean? Why would it be?)

Doesn't change the fact you feel manish unlike other woman in many ways.
Being attracted to girls does not make you boyish.
Butch lesbians exist, surely. Very feminine lesbians also exist. Can't generalize too much.

What is this "manish" trait you describe anyway?

If the girl doesn't want the guy he can make her change her mined, its not going to change itself by talking about it.
If the girl genuinely doesn't want the guy, she should be capable of saying so and the guy should be capable of accepting the rejection. If flirting works (and flirting can be talking about things), that's cool. It means the "I don't wanna be with you" wasn't set in stone for one reason or other. It doesn't mean every guy can score every girl if he just uses the right techniques.
Jefferysinspiration
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Usually that is a problem but ofc there are certain cases.

Actually, a lot of guys enjoy having a strong woman to dominate them.


Doesn't change the fact you feel manish unlike other woman in many ways. You didn't turn into a lesbian overnight when you stopped dating guys, did you? That means some manish feelings were there before that.


My picture is in the photo thread - please not my long hair, heels, make up and dress. Thanks.
Feeling "Mannish" suggests i felt like a man? I have never felt like a man. I'm attracted to women and i'm in a very serious relationship with one - neither of us plays the "boy" or "girl" role, we're just us and we're happy.

If the girl doesn't want the guy he can make her change her mined, its not going to change itself by talking about it.


Coercing someone into having sexual relations with you isn't a real "man" thing to do now is it?

the guy should be capable of accepting the rejection.


It's all about respect, so you should always respect your partners opinion.
GoblinD
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What do you base this assumption on? (The "usually that is a problem". What do you mean? Why would it be?)

Lets put it this way: 5000 years ago the man had to hunt and take care of the woman caveman style. Do you really think in 5000 years the genetics changed? Or are those new ideas spearheaded by people like Jeffery.
Jeffery, I really doubt you are able to completely separate man and woman feelings you have. Don't think most Woman thing and feel like you do.


If the girl genuinely doesn't want the guy, she should be capable of saying so and the guy should be capable of accepting the rejection. If flirting works (and flirting can be talking about things), that's cool. It means the "I don't wanna be with you" wasn't set in stone for one reason or other. It doesn't mean every guy can score every girl if he just uses the right techniques.

Its true sometimes its just impossible but people really underestimate the skill factor.


Coercing someone into having sexual relations with you isn't a real "man" thing to do now is it?

Now you think I want to **** woman, don't you?
GoblinD
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Permanently the "R" word can't be posted here. Just know its not the "S" word.

Jefferysinspiration
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Lets put it this way: 5000 years ago the man had to hunt and take care of the woman caveman style. Do you really think in 5000 years the genetics changed? Or are those new ideas spearheaded by people like Jeffery.
Jeffery, I really doubt you are able to completely separate man and woman feelings you have. Don't think most Woman thing and feel like you do.


The fact you're comparing yourself to a caveman is hilarious. You've just insulted your own intelligence.

Also, being a lesbian is very different to being transgender which is what you're describing. I have feelings for women, i do not feel like a man at all. I love being female. That is all.

Now you think I want to **** woman, don't you?

There's a difference between talking a girl into something and forcing her, so no i do not think that, nor did i imply it.
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