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leo99rules
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1% of people change their opinion after having an argument with someone.

So why do we argue?

If the fact is that nearly no one changes their opinion why do we feel that we can possible change somebody else's opinon?

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Cenere
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Arguments might not be the best example for this, considering it usually involves two people being somewhat annoyed with each other about something. That is, they think the other is wrong, and they know they, themselves, are right.

Discussions might be better for this, considering they are constructed to voice facts and opinions for other to look at and consider into their own opinion.

Either way, it seems quite clear from the argument-example that people are rather unlikely to change their opinion on basis of an argument, because they want to be right. Most people, if not all, wants to be right, and doesn't want to hear that they are wrong, why and why they should change their opinion (not to mention opinions are rather subjective, and thus unlikely to change unless the person changes).
At the same time, we want to share our being right with others, and want to make them think the same as we do. If they don't, they are obviously wrong, so we have to correct them, so they stop being wrong, ignoring the fact that if someone told you, you were wrong, you would get mad at them, because you are, well, right, and that others might see it the exact same way.

Either way, I think I had a point, but it kinda slipped out between the repetition.

thebluerabbit
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i dont think its just 1%. i changed my mind and changed other peoples minds alot. but even if what you said is true it still makes them think. many people will just lock themselves and never raise the subject again if they start "losing" but in the end they had their doubt about what they "know" and gave a different "truth" a thought.

happened many times to me being the one who thought differently and made others think differently.

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If anything arguing with people about everything and life has made me have no mind at all, and just hold everything in doubt.

Argue with people enough and you don't just change your mind, you turn into a cynical ******.

knight_34
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Hey, I like dialectics. I seek the truth.


Argue with people enough and you don't just change your mind, you turn into a cynical ******.


That is a common reality, unfortunately.
leo99rules
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Sorry. Very vague OP.

Anyways, I'm just wondering why opinions are easily changed by people they look up to. For example. I myself had my favorite soccer team as Chelsea until I was thirteen. When I was thirteen I then realised that I don't like chelsea at all and my real favourite team is liverpool.

It was at that point; three years ago I realised how much I followed people around. I asked other people about this matter too and they told me the same thing. So if we mainly base our opinions on what other people (That we look up to) think is right. How do they make theirs?

And why do we find it so hard to change our opinions from someone who we don't care about. But suddenly Justin Bieber says that pink is a good color and automatically every single girl under thirteen says pink is their favourite color.

Now that I think about this. I made this topic not about just opinions but how we create them. How we believe them and how we understand them.

I believe that most hobbies, actions, opinions and such are completely based on what you saw when you were younger.

Something that I believe is unique I find out my father did as well. Did I learn it randomly? Or did I learn it from seeing.

It confuses me.

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1% of people change their opinion after having an argument with someone.


I'd like to see the study that says this. The number is significantly higher, but it really depends on the case. If the person is indifferent to the topic, he can be easily swayed.

So if we mainly base our opinions on what other people (That we look up to) think is right. How do they make theirs?


"We" don't necessarily. If you do, than okay, but I don't play a video game and give it the same rating I saw in a review.

And why do we find it so hard to change our opinions from someone who we don't care about. But suddenly Justin Bieber says that pink is a good color and automatically every single girl under thirteen says pink is their favourite color.


That's literally the definition of "sheeple". Though it renders your opinion useless, mindlessly copying other people's opinions does fall under the definition of an opinion.

Something that I believe is unique I find out my father did as well. Did I learn it randomly? Or did I learn it from seeing.


You have similar genetics, so what you're brains find interesting could be similar.
CheapCheep
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In my opinion, an opinion CAN be a fact.

And Justin Beiber's a girl. JUST KIDDING!!!

But seriously.
>_<

phsyco123
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its not that we think we can its that we want to be right in my opinion

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Hmmmmm, usually the opinion would be made quite young or during an impressionable time during a person's life, like their teens. And an argument is a way to defend that ideal or opinion, even if there is really going to be no change of heart or mind. It's another way of people to express themselves and their individuality, or lack of. And it's occasionally fun when it's with someone who knows what they are talking about.

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