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Posted Oct 27, '12 at 4:10pm

Santi_

Santi_

444 posts

Everyone I knew left me. All my friends and past. Nobody acknowledges me. I am not welcomed in my old town. In this town, I have nobody once again. I made no new friends.

Haven't we all been in that hell of a place.
Just shrug it off, be more outgoing.
That's what I wish I did in a situation like yours.

 

Posted Oct 31, '12 at 12:55pm

toemas

toemas

314 posts

.So do you remember that girl Ace liked?
Well long story short, she hasn't talked to me since approximately when I told you. She blocked me from her phone and email.
Ace feels horrible.
I still don't know what to do.
When I lost her, I lost everyone basically.
Everyone I knew left me. All my friends and past. Nobody acknowledges me. I am not welcomed in my old town. In this town, I have nobody once again. I made no new friends.
Note: My definition of friend might be different than yours.
What you might call a friend, is what I call an acquaintance.
What you might call a best friend, is what I call a friend.

its ok ace! you have us :')

 

Posted Nov 5, '12 at 7:42pm

killersup10

killersup10

1,784 posts

.So do you remember that girl Ace liked?
Well long story short, she hasn't talked to me since approximately when I told you. She blocked me from her phone and email.
Ace feels horrible.
I still don't know what to do.
When I lost her, I lost everyone basically.
Everyone I knew left me. All my friends and past. Nobody acknowledges me. I am not welcomed in my old town. In this town, I have nobody once again. I made no new friends.
Note: My definition of friend might be different than yours.
What you might call a friend, is what I call an acquaintance.
What you might call a best friend, is what I call a friend.

drinking bleach, sleeping with a old friend's girlfriend and then making a youtube video complaing should do the job. Then about a week after you kill yourself. That should fix all of your problems...-----____---

 

Posted Nov 6, '12 at 7:45am

zonic98

zonic98

485 posts

Ace, just drink some vodka and forget everything. :)

 

Posted Nov 6, '12 at 9:16pm

AceofSky

AceofSky

728 posts

Sucks that your life sucks. Cannot help you there though.

Thanks.

Nobody could, I think.

Thank you. -_-

Haven't we all been in that hell of a place.
Just shrug it off, be more outgoing.
That's what I wish I did in a situation like yours.

We should start at the beginning, how do you talk to people?

its ok ace! you have us :')

:D

drinking bleach, sleeping with a old friend's girlfriend and then making a youtube video complaing should do the job. Then about a week after you kill yourself. That should fix all of your problems...-----____---

I hope it does.

Ace, just drink some vodka and forget everything. :)

I don't drink. :P

Seriously though, I have a very serious update on the fact that I seriously could be perhaps wrong, yes I am serious.
Anyways, the girl texted me!
Gasp!
Way to go Ace!
Let's forget the fact that I texted her worthless things and stuff like that and spammed her until she messaged me back like one month about later.
Anyways, back to the story. She texted me to my iPod and phone, I don't have my iPod, but nevertheless, I can get access to the messages. She texted me asking if I knew this kid and that I probably hate her and what-not. She also mentioned, I hope your life is good and family...blegh...I bet she truly doesn't care. -__-
But she's changed so much....strangely, I feel as if she got older since she now curses.
I asked her how her Halloween was on Halloween...no reply. Meh.
I hate when people do this. They give me that one glimmer of hope then crush it as soon as I reach for it. But she seriously had no reason to hate me. She was very fine with me supposedly hating her, but I dunno. Maybe she died and something? Nah, joking. She's still alive, but probably ignoring me.
So AG, do I continue the conversation, like resend the message, or something?

I really don't care about that question above since I plan on ignoring the fact that she did not message me. Also, being social is not a talent one might pick up rapidly when he/she has been anti-social for a while. I mean I can talk in front of people, but it's when I am supposed to be alone with someone. Like perhaps a girl. Even if I have no feelings for her whatsoever, I consider myself lower than her and don't like to talk to much which is pretty sad.
The school counselor thinks I am some loner which is pretty fine with me, but at the end of the day today, I noticed this kid I beat academically (We did this buzzer question thing and I was up against him) talking to a girl. I instantly felt lower than him. I thought perhaps he was the true winner.
I just think I am not getting accepted into the social order of this high school. Perhaps discriminated due to my race, but I personally can't stand it. It's annoying.
No I am not planning to go suicidal either.
I didn't review this paragraph since I didn't feel like looking at my shameful writing and what-not, but if you want something paraphrased just let me know.

 

Posted Nov 6, '12 at 10:10pm

pickpocket

pickpocket

3,324 posts

Ace it's simple, you need to talk more. I talk a lot now a days, and my problem isn't talking to a girl alone, it's getting her alone. We can go on to my problems a little later in this post. Glad to see most of us are still alive.

Alright, I see a lot of sarcastic humor going on here. I feel like I am responsible for starting that. I feel like I must end it. I welcome humor, but if you are going to do that please post something you think might help. These are people's lives, they aren't jokes. If you make your jokes, like I said, post a small serious section too.

So ace. Ace. Ace, ace, ace. What are we going to do with you?
You need help with your social skills. For me to help you, I'm going to need as much information on your social standing in school as you are willing to give out. Then, I can really help you. Don't worry ace. We will help you.

So while we wait on him, I'll fill you in.
After much flipping and flopping between people, I finally found one I truly like. I have the feeling she likes me too. No way to tell as of now. The thing is, we know each other but haven't really had a one on one conversation. We talked a few times last week and things went well but we are only acquaintances. Just parts of a group. Our conversations were group conversations that we had a brief one on one chat in. Now if I knew her better, I wouldn't hesitate to talk to her alone. But I don't know her better. I feel like if I can become a better friend, I can escape the friend zone eventually. But the way it is now sucks.

tl;dr
I like a girl, but I haven't built up the courage to talk to her alone. Help por favor.

 

Posted Nov 6, '12 at 10:21pm

Ernie15

Ernie15

12,530 posts

Knight

But she's changed so much....strangely, I feel as if she got older since she now curses.

Do you believe that this change is a sign of hope for the future, or is this a bad omen? Maturity can swing either way depending on the state of the other party.

That was a serious comment, but it's election day and my mind isn't really anywhere else. Which is quite an improvement over most days, considering it usually isn't anywhere at all.

But she seriously had no reason to hate me.

Girls will be girls, with the exception of Chaz Bono. You'll only confuse yourself more if you try to understand their reasoning. Just remember that it probably isn't your fault that she hates you if it's true that she does and you really didn't do anything to prompt this behavior.

You'll need help from a girl on this one, though. They tend to understand each other pretty well.

I just think I am not getting accepted into the social order of this high school.

If you've been antisocial for a while, you can't expect the social order to just sweep you up and make you homecoming king out of nowhere; you have to work for it by going out of your comfort zone and talk to people you wouldn't normally talk to. It's called the social order for a reason. Recovering from antisocial behavior can be tough, but if you're motivated enough you should be able to at least make a few friends in the process if you really want to.

I'll tell you right now, though, high school social orders are complete BS. The people at the top get there by portraying themselves as people that they really aren't, not by being themselves and letting their true colors shine all over the place. You're probably too real a person and that's why the fakers aren't very accepting of you.

 

Posted Nov 6, '12 at 10:56pm

AceofSky

AceofSky

728 posts

Not on my computer so I do apologize for not quoting exact things and for autocorrect's mistakes.
@Pickpocket
My social standing in this school is basically that one kid in the background. The rooster in the chicken coop.

Are you lacking confidence or are you asking how to get her alone?
If you need to get to talk to her alone, bump into her in the hall and start a conversation. Talk to her until you reach her class and flash a smile and say "See ya" while doing a hair-flip. I hear girls find that attractive.
If you are lacking confidence persuade yourself that she will eventually move on with or without you.

@Ernie
It is definitely a strange sign of maturity that seems to come off bad. It is as if she has grown older and forgotten me. (It is obvious that she has done that).

Thanks and I know. I probably am overthinking this, along with everything else people have said to me.
So we are back at step one again now?

It's super weird. There are these people that are outgoing and social. They don't acknowledge me, but when we do something academically they acknowledge me.
Maybe everybody thinks I have friends at my old town that I need anymore here.

Goodnight everyone and happy Election Day!

 

Posted Nov 7, '12 at 1:34am

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,232 posts

Ace - I shall help you break out of your shell as well...I used to be in a similar situation...but now a majority of my grade-mates know who I am (in a good way...fyi) because I'm talkative, friendly, funny, blah blah blah.

First order of business....don't worry about what people think about you. Yes..take it into consideration so you don't act a fool...but don't do things just because you think others would like it...just be yourself. But be confident in yourself..."I am Ace and I am effing awesome...if others don't think that...then who cares bout em?!" - keep that thought flowing in your Ace mind

pickpocket - I'm going to be blunt about it....just do it. Do you have her number? If so...start texting her more...ask how her day was/is...what is going on with her...ask stuff about her. Also...if she ever seems angry or upset with something (like school, parents, etc)...let her know that you are a person she can confide in or vent to. Let her know you are a trustworthy person....and actually pay attention to what she says. If you don't have her number...then get it..then do what I just said

------

pang update!

So the girl I have been talking to where everything has been going awesome? Well guess what....parents (or..at least her mom) now loves me and approves of me (hell...she even said herself we look cute together!). Going to make things official this saturday...plan on doing it in a very adorable/cutsie-romantic way haha

Oh...and guess who joined AG!
Hint: is the girl =p

 

Posted Nov 7, '12 at 5:09pm

daleks

daleks

3,180 posts

I hate when people do this.

Eh, people do it all the time. It is not just you. What bugs me most is when you ask them a question and they don't respond. Don't take it personally though, even though that is hard not to do(at least for me).

Honestly Ace, if you want to be more social with people then you have to start by using AG less. I don't know how much you use it but if you use it less then you will probably be more social overall.

Do you have any friends at the new school?

First order of business....don't worry about what people think about you.

One does not simple stop worrying about what people think of you. You should a little bit but there will always be people that don't like you, unless your me, everyone loves me.

Oh...and guess who joined AG!
Hint: is the girl =p

I am waiting for her to see this thread and be all, da**** dude! Why?

 
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