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Posted Jul 2, '13 at 3:41pm

darkblueoc

darkblueoc

36 posts

I was typing to fast

And I do it again...

 

Posted Jul 3, '13 at 9:59am

Raynethx

Raynethx

50 posts

Here's a tip lets say your an artist if you really like that secretly draw a picture of her don't show it to her during lesson or classes she won't notice or realise your drawing her when she's distracted that is if she comes over to you you have no choice but to hide i suppose that's kinda what a stalker would do though but theres nothing wrong with being a secret admirer but then one day she'll find the picture you drew of her post it in a letter pacel envelope put it in her locker or something but don't leave a name she won't know who put it there

 

Posted Jul 4, '13 at 8:44am

darkpurplefox1921

darkpurplefox1921

9 posts

Ok, I have i problem very much like blue's but i decided to cut contact for the summer since it was hurting her so much...think i did the smart thing?

 

Posted Jul 6, '13 at 12:05pm

Raynethx

Raynethx

50 posts

if it'll give her some space that is deppends

 

Posted Jul 11, '13 at 1:02pm

pickpocket

pickpocket

3,520 posts

Ok, I have i problem very much like blue's but i decided to cut contact for the summer since it was hurting her so much...think i did the smart thing

How exactly does you talking to her hurt her? that's pretty bad for a relationship.
Dropping contact is bad in general. People change. If you don't make efforts to contact her, you will be forgotten. This is generally how it works, but I don't know about this one. You need to answer my first question, then we can help.

 

Posted Jul 11, '13 at 2:10pm

Strop

Strop

10,824 posts

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I thought this was something to do with long distance.

There's a point in a relationship (i.e. before a commitment is solidified), that trying to build or maintain something long distance is more difficult than it is actually worth. To bring personal experience into it, I'm currently living interstate from my partner. This is because of work: I have to do this placement for 3 months. However, we have a little bit of flexibility in our travel arrangements so we make sure to see each other on average once a week/two weeks. For one thing, this is something we've been used to for 3 months prior to my moving, and for another, we're both busy people and have to ration our time, so we're used to not seeing each other more than once or twice a week already, and that's part of our expectation.

Contrast this to one of my best friends, who started a relationship with a colleague. However, said colleague has physician exams coming up, and they're all-consumingly difficult. Naturally he has been all-consumed by them, and so is very stressed and essentially has zero availability. This all started happening maybe four weeks after they started getting to know each other. Naturally, my friend, who is a self-professed over-thinker, has already contemplated on several occasions giving up on it, because she doesn't have much to go on, and doesn't know if she's prepared to live that kind of life, given that since both of them are doctors and she's due to go interstate the day after he finishes his exams, they aren't going to be seeing each other regularly for quite a long time.

Those are the kinds of considerations I assumed were going on here.

 

Posted Jul 22, '13 at 9:07pm

Zophia

Zophia

8,407 posts

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Speaking of long distance, remember back innnnn November or so where I blabbed in here about things?

Okay so things went pretty great when I visited her around January/February. :D She'll be visiting me in about five weeks, plane tickets acquired yesterday. Although she can't stay here as long as I could stay there, what with her work, this is still most excellent. Text chat and skype shenanigans only go so far, so getting some real hugs in again will be amazing.

 

Posted Jul 22, '13 at 10:50pm

daleks

daleks

3,315 posts

I remember you popping by Zoph but I cannot remember what you said at all.

 

Posted Jul 23, '13 at 1:05am

pangtongshu

pangtongshu

8,704 posts

Speaking of long distance, remember back innnnn November or so where I blabbed in here about things?

I do! =D

And sounds like everything is going well for you.
Nothing to do here.

 

Posted Jul 23, '13 at 11:18am

Youassassin

Youassassin

233 posts

I married my wife last year and 2 months ago. We had a long distance relationship the entire time before that. 5 years of dating. Shortest distance 2.5 hrs by car, Longest distance was 3.5 hrs by plane

 
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