As a famous saying goes: "Don't judge a book by it's cover."
Now this can be a very powerful saying do you not agree?
Attracting the opposite sex can be hard and that is very hard to argue otherwise.
Is not the beauty in the eye of the beholder?
So does beauty not contribute in beauty can be only an opinion?
Ok sorry I was in a philosophical mood. But this subject popped into my head (Most likely the teenage hormones kicking in) but what is it that actually attracts a mate?
I know there are certain people out there who aren't the most beautiful people in the world yet still have a love for another being. Does it take time to love someone of the opposite sex or to see the attractiveness of the their body? For me it is usually a female that catches my eye and a simple smile will make me smile sheepishly (as most men do). That is what attracts me to her. Then to learn her feel and takes on thing decides whether or not I want a relationship with her.
But does attractiveness not always comes first? Do you need to spend time with people before you find them attractive? As a friend of mine I spent alot of time with, I didn't see her as attractive until I really looked into her eyes when we were talking and realized how much she spoke from her spirit and her heart not just her emotions that made me extremely attracted to her.
Which of these occurs most? Love at first sight is a very shaky quote and I can say from common knowledge that it is very fake. What do you think?
Possibly on the first impression we first judge them by the image of beauty we formed over the years by viewing what we've become attached to. Then, while still on that first impression, we try to imagine that those looks reflect the person's personality, of which we may like or dislike.
Second step is personally meeting with them and confirming or disproving those first impressions we make.
Also think about this, if there was a very hot gitl, you will really want to get to know her. Now you probably would want to get to know an unnattractive girl. So the hot girl really has an advantage, but personality is huge anyway.
Well some hot girls are intemidating. Such is the thing at my highschool, I've seen alot of beautiful girls (of course Im on a "look but don't touch basis" hence my girlfriend) I saw my girlfriend in a group of her friends that I didn't know so it was hard for me to get to her and talk with her confortably.
Oh but the "look but don't touch basis" didn't occur on Thursday when I went to an unsupervised dance and grinded with 3 seniors from the dance squad, don't worry I danced with my gf too. Not bad for a freshmen, eh? ~_^
I just be myself and stay open. My whole thing is not to intentionally look, because you'll get desperate, and 99.999% of the time, it winds up in heartbreak. Just go with the flow, and if you find someone, lucky you.
That is an interesting question. Each person has there own out look for liking one another. The phrase "Love at first sight" I think it is false because going after someone you don't know based on looks is a bit wierd and the relationship don't usually work out after a while. I think getting to know one another first works better than just going after a randomly good looking person. That's all I could think of for the moment. If you got have something different than me more power to you.
Thursday when I went to an unsupervised dance and grinded with 3 seniors from the dance squad, don't worry I danced with my gf too. Not bad for a freshmen, eh? ~_^
Not bad at all. You're like two years ahead of schedule. xp
If LadyTurleToes responded to all of this I'll laugh so hard.
Attracting the opposite sex can be hard and that is very hard to argue otherwise
not really...i seem to get girls just fine...though im trying to figure a plan out for megan fox...shes a hard one
Is not the beauty in the eye of the beholder?
uh...what?
As a friend of mine I spent alot of time with, I didn't see her as attractive until I really looked into her eyes when we were talking and realized how much she spoke from her spirit and her heart not just her emotions
ugh i hate chicks that speak their mind
know there are certain people out there who aren't the most beautiful people in the world yet still have a love for another being.
