This is for all you atheists/agnostics out there that have to tell your religious parents what you are, but are scared to do so. I just did it today, and this is sort of what NOT to do lol.
About 30 minutes before my mom and I were about to go to church I told her that I don't believe in the Catholic religion. Yeah, BIG MISTAKE. If you're going to do this don't do it 30 minutes before you're going to church/temple or whatever you're going to lol.
This will probably be the most painful part of letting go of your religion. When I told my VERY religious mother who isn't very open minded btw, it was horrible. She didn't accept me and said I needed to go to church to "cure" me. I felt betrayed, unloved, sad, angry, unaccepted, and for the first time like a minority. I was really upset and called my dad at work and explained what was happening. He isn't that religious and a hell of a lot more open minded. So telling him was fairly easy, and he even said that it's ok to question my beliefs.
He told me we'd talk about it when he got home, and to just go to church anyway to make my mom happy. So I did.
I had a huge conversation with my parents when I got home, and there was anger, sadness, but at the end acceptance. I finally felt truly enlightened and happy.
Anyways, morale of the story is if you have a parent that is more open minded than the other do one of two things. Tell that parent first OR tell both parents together. If one or both of your parents don't accept you for what you are, and try to force their religion on you then just be patient. They are your parents and you should try to respect them. Eventually you'll move out and won't have to deal with it. Also if you just keep talking to your parents they may start accepting you and stop trying to make you something you're not.
I probably forgot some things but here's a video that I wish I found before this happened, it probably would have helped a lot. Watch it and take its advice, and good luck telling your parents about your freedom of dogmas!
Still have questions? Just ask me and I'll help you how I can.
-ps, MAYBE this can help if you're gay/bisexual as well.
wow klause, I hope I'm wrong about what I believe in just so I can see your btch a$$ in hell you mother fcker.
and I hope your parents are some of the open-minded Catholics that don't think all non-Christians are going to Hell.
Is this a new species you speak of? lol jk, my dad is a protestant which is why he didn't mind much probably, and my mom isn't that open minded, but she is my mom and I know she'll come around
Anywho, the tell of her that you don't believe RIGHT before church wasn't really a good idea. I'm glad your dad was able to understand, if not, you would've been screwed >.<
lmao ya, I actually didn't realize that we were going to church till after I told her o.O
Anywho, the tell of her that you don't believe RIGHT before church wasn't really a good idea. I'm glad your dad was able to understand, if not, you would've been screwed >.<
lmao ya, I actually didn't realize that we were going to church till after I told her o.O
wow klause, I hope I'm wrong about what I believe in just so I can see your btch a$$ in hell you mother fcker.
Klaus. There is no e. I don't know where you kids get this E, but it's not there. except after house, but how it migrates behind Klaus I don't know. Your addition of btch a$$ mutha fcker was insightful, cause you've taught me how to swear like I was 12. Anyways, I find it highly ironic that after being attacked by your parents for beliefs that differ from yours, you attack me for having ideals that differ from yours on how to handles a situation. Way to be exactly like your parents you hypocritical child.
hmm that's weird. Oh well, my response to the ultimate douche bag of the world klaushouse is on the 2nd page, and this is also probably on the 2nd page, but hopefully not.
Jeez kid, the way you describe things in the OP, you make it sound like religion is some horrible oppressive thing that makes people horribly depressed.
Its definitely not.
Quite honestly, you are too young to make fully make decisions such as these (as am I) by yourself. I really doubt you have looked into deep philosophical arguments on both sides and made the decision based on those. But I'm not even sure you'd be able to comprehend the arguments of both sides. I noticed on your profile it says you are fourteen, but you seem to act as if you are a 10 year old. As Klaus pointed out when you started randomly cursing.
yea it took me a year to finally come out of the closet... It was too hard to find those knicker bockers that I won in the illinois "lucky raffle".. But i was very happy when I found them =)...
Morale of the story.... It takes time for others to accept you after you completely change from "their prospective" of life. But after a while they will finally ackowledge you, and appreciate your patience and endurance with constant attacks toward your beliefs. In the end you will be happy for them finally accepting you, and they will have alot more respect for what you had to put up with...
