So this is how it goes... i ask a girl to be my girlfriend and i've known her for a while like 4 years and she's one of my best friends. Initialy she says yes, then she tells me that it's kinda awkward because we've known each other for such a long time. So she basicly broke up with me. any advice?
ya dont try and obsesse... sort of flirt with her more... i tried to just keep going after this girl and ya jus brouight more heart ache.... so just flirt with her now and see were that goes
If the her "yes to go out with you" and "this is awkward" comments were within a week... I wouldn't exactly call it a break-up. It just seems like she wasn't sure about dating you in the first place. Did she actually say "I don't want to date you anymore?" Because technically you could interprete her "awkward" comment as questioning you relationship as opposed to calling it a break-up. Just have a face-to-face chat with her. Ask her if she rather be your friend or date you. It might be tough (if the answer is to stay friends), but you might as well find out what she truly thinks. Who knows, maybe she feels awkward but deep down wants to try and date you!
P.S. If you have more questions or girl troubles. You should go to the "If you have a question about girls..." thread. There are already 40 pages of similar conversations. I frequent there often to give advice!
40 pages.... who likes that.... It's not 40 pages on one problem. It's just a popular thread discussing various relationship questions about guys & girls.
she did say it within the week. So, don't be super bummed about the "break-up" then. She probably wasn't too sure about dating you in the first place. Just talk to her and I think your confusions will go away!
It's not an uncommon thing. I've been in this girls situation before with a girl I'm good mates with and I've also been on your end of it. The best thing you can do is keep friendship going.
We call this the "friend zone". Even though it's possible to get out of it and into a real relationship, the chances of screwing everthing up is even greater. Proceed with whatever feels natural, if she isn't any more attracted to you, then you need to get over her and be happy you are both friends.
No CosmicCharlie that is definitly not the answer, and that is wrong for so many reasons.
Wow the "friend zone"... what a cliche... but i guess thats reality
I don't know if this has anything to do with anything, but she said that she feels bad about what she said and feels like a bad person, and I don't seriously don't think she is. Personaly I think she's overthinking it.
It works all the time for me. maybe you're not hitting her hard enough. You gotta hit her hard enough to let her know who's boss, but not so hard that she'd have to go to the hospital.
