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No I don't, wrse case scenario, i'll curse him in reply.

Or you get some killer comebacks, they either shut up or they theyescalate and one day you really push their button and things get violent. You reply in like and immediatly take the issue to some authority, since you were not the one who started and have remained defensive in the fight, you are off the hook and they get entangled, double win.

I mean really, other than ones with mental illnesses who would be so much affected by bullying.

Then they should but first one should learn t rely on one's self.

Violence is last resort.
You know I never throw first punch?

I don't know how weak you have to be to go to them,

Why tell some one else when you can handle it?

Then they should but first one should learn t rely on one's self.

Congratulations, you have begun the cycle of escalation. No wonder your examples always end with you fighting.

Or you ignore the dumb scrub and there's no problem. Since you're oh so strong, it won't hurt you to let the other guy mouth off will it?

And having a mental illness does not automatically default someone to being weak.

That requires a certain level of maturity and self confidence, which many children do not have. An adult should have learned how to handle confrontations (ie, by not resorting to violence).

see this? you said violence is the last resort but using all the info you gave its also the second. the first being inviting it. youve been given with plenty things to do in such a situation but you pushed them aside. violence is definitely not the last resort for you.

your so proud that you always have to get "even" with a person.

we are humans. we dont live in hell or a jungle.

but i know many many people who barely ever got into fights and defnitely wouldnt be able to protect themselves in those fights.

If escalation it is, so be it, I never keep a debt.

Or sinc e you have made an example out of this dumb scrub, no other dumb scrub bothers you.

How so?

did I hit him?
All I did was reply him in the same.
If you can not handle being cursed,I strongly advise you to not to curse me, for I will definatley curse back.

As I said, I never keep a debt, you do me good, I always return the favor.

Trying to be the dominant is human nature.

still better to lie then get in a bloody fight.

Yes, but you're lying through your teeth. Violence isn't your first answer, it's your only answer after the only person isn't intimidated by your hostile actions.

Getting sick has nothing to do with being strong or weak.

You're a bully, punisher.

Yeah, because we all know how the cycle of revenge goes.

Going above your primate instincts is what we call being human.

I'm not sure how much of this is culture, either. Resorting to violence seems like a less extreme solution to you than it does us, perhaps because it's commonplace there. You're desensitized to it.

Any way to justify this assumption of yours?

Yes it does, when your whole body is hurting thanks to malaria would you be able to function properly?
No, you will be weak albiet temporarily.
When you are depressed will you be working just as same as normal?
No you won't,hence you will be weak.
So, enough with this political correctness.

Just because I refuse to be a victim I am a bully? WOW.

We don;t even take fights seriously.

correct me if I'm wrong because this is just an estimate

It's heavily implied. You give example after example of fights you've gotten into. Though you repeatedly say this doesn't happen often, it obviously happens far more than it should. Getting into a fist fight is very serious, yet, correct me if I'm wrong because this is just an estimate, you probably get into at least one every other month.

I thought you were using weak in another sense. If all you meant was that people with illnesses are less able to handle these types of situations due to how it affects them, then we need not go further.

you're a bully to people being bullied, by using yourself as an example of how beating the crap out of someone can make the other person stop and then calling them weak for not being able to beat the other person up or being affected by their bully's actions.

I dimly recall posts about broken noses and knocked out teeth. What's a serious fight, Punisher? When someone gets knifed?

Here, actually yes.

actually punisher, you don't give any indication of what you meant with how disease affects people to how they react to circumstances, which let to this "escalation".

[quote]The last fight I got into was, july 2010.
more than 3 years ago.
there were minor conflicts but cooler heads prevailed.

a serious fight is not just when someone gets knifed. in my country there are people killed in a fist fight between high school students. not all of them ended with someone knifed and died, mostly you punch people till they are dead.

why do you have to fight in that time if you said that "violence is the last resort"? i don't get it because it contradicts your principle. this suggest me that you are a"shoot first ask question later" type of guy. explain why you get into that fight to correct my assumption.

Bullying of any kind is bad and should be punished. It should also be avoided to a certain degree and prevented to a certain degree as well. I think it could never be completely eliminated.

That's what I think about it at least.

To understand on why bullying is done on the first place. We have to know key issues.

1. one can think bullying is a power thing. Some people like to control others to be on top.
2. Family issues, bullying from family especially at a young age might make people think that is normal.
3. They have been socially ignored and it is a means for recognition.

There could be more reasons but logically thinking. Our behaviors and everything we are is genetic or environmental.

That does not mean we can't change who we are. With the genes we have within us there will be good and bad ones the ones that effect our behavior will depend on what we experience. If you find your either a bully or being bullied and it is effecting your life. Then something has to change. Often people won't realize their flaws until it is long down the line. If there is means for change then you can. Within us we have a brain which is capable of doing so much only if we learned how to control it properly.

Me personally i have never been bullied nor have bullied That is based on my own behavior. There have been attempts when i was young and at school where at this school there was a guy who thought he was on top and basically ruled the school. I often get on with just about everything but i normally keep myself to a select few of people who are normally more intelligent than others. Since i was mostly withdrawn from the rest of the school the guy in-charge didn't feel like they had the power over me and my friends like the rest of the school. So they attempted to take control, first coming out with slanders, which didn't get to me since i don't really care what others think that are unimportant to me. Once that was ineffective on me. Then came physical harassment. which in this case i can't ignore. It started with attempting to destroy the school work i did. I told them not to, the didn't listen so i was left with no other option than to do the exact same to them i torn up their work. This did make them mad and got violent. The whole class was rather shocked of what i just did as no one had the guts to stand up to this guy. After taking a punch from this guy, i didn't hesitate to retaliate and hit them back. It was a short fight but alot of punches had been throw it ended with us physically rolling on the floor and 3 teachers physically separating us. Some might think violence wasn't the best way to stop this but i had just started high school and had anger issues myself which i learned to control just not in a physical sense. I don't like to fight but it's not an option, if i know there is an unavoidable situation my whole body fills with adrenaline. Everything then seems to me slower and all i have i alot of anger plus the sense of pain while fighting is non existent for me. It is afterwards though.

My point for all this story is stand up for what you believe in and help others in the situation. Being nice is all good but too nice make you a pushover. My attitude to people is. They way they treat me or people i know i treat them the same way. If people know i am nice and try to take advantage i can be stubborn and stand up for myself. The balance of the both should make bullying less of a occurrence.

One more point, Why do people care what they say about each other? I can't answer this i know most people do care, The way i am i have never cared. Learning how to handle emotions is key. If bullies see you are upset that is their fuel, if they can't get to you or you don't let on it does they will likely give up. Afterwards if it did effect you learn how to deal with these things and tell yourself they are not worth anything to you and why should it matter.

Is that like help the bully-ee than stop the bully-er?

Umm..

"Is that like help the victim then stop the bully"

Is that what you meant?

Why do people care what they say about each other?