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oh yah and 1 more thing i kinda caused the break up. on the day it happened she was gonna tell him she loved him. after school i ran up to him and told him to break up with her first. i didn't want her to say that one minute and see her heartbroken the next.

IF YOU ARE A GIRL PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR THOUGHTS. I WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD WANT ME TO DO IF YOU WERE HER.

honestly ihave no idea what you just said. they broke up but she didnt know and was mad that you didnt tell her? what? a couple is only broken when they talk about it. i have no idea what you did wrong and i probably misunderstood the situation?

maybe you meant that the guy told you he is about to break up with her before he did? i personally dont think you did anything wrong except telling her that you do nothing more then just tell eachother what they want you do tell them (which is pointless since they are ALREADY in a relationship?).

its not your fault they broke up, its your fault they broke up earlier then planned (which doesnt matter since it would hurt her more if he would wait after she said that so i think you did the right thing there). its the guys fault that he told you something so personal before telling the person who actually is supposed to hear it. but since they arent together anymore that girl cant be mad at him and show it so she takes it out on you. being sorry means you regret something you did. do you regret not telling her? do you regret making them break up before it turned worse? i wouldnt.

if you 2 are good friends she would forgive you the second you told her your sorry or AT LEAST forgive you after she is over the guy (which might be the case since she isnt over him and have no one to take her rage on). if she wants to ruin a friendship becuase of such a shallow relationship where the 2 dont even love eachother and already consider themselves boyfriend and girlfriend and talk about eachother with their friends behind their back like that then she doesnt deserve a friend like you.

tip to the future: its not bad to play cupid. just make sure you know that both sides know you do nothing more then just telling eachother what they tell you. if you want to be extra carefull tell them not to tell you anything personal that isnt supposed to get to the other person.

i personally wouldnt involve myself that deeply in the first place. sorry for the drama you have to go through.

girls can be like that some times if you say your sincerely sorry and she's still up set then she probly just needs to cool down ps it could take months

I know I'm not a girl, but here's my thoughts. Talk to her, put her in your place. Tell her how much she's hurting you, and would she like to be hurt like that too? Just let her talk to you, and explain why she's mad at you. Ask her what could be done so you two could be friends again. Also, try handwritten letters, just slip them into her locker. I am sorry for your situation, let me know on my profile if this works out for you, okay?

(an addend to my last post)

Tell her that it feels like you've lost your best friend. Ask her if she would like that, too. Tell her to ask herself, should I be this hard on my friend? Would I be ok if my friend (you) didn't want to take the pressure I am putting on her, and just left me?

oh yah and 1 more thing i kinda caused the break up. on the day it happened she was gonna tell him she loved him. after school i ran up to him and told him to break up with her first. i didn't want her to say that one minute and see her heartbroken the next.

maybe you meant that the guy told you he is about to break up with her before he did? i personally dont think you did anything wrong except telling her that you do nothing more then just tell eachother what they want you do tell them

do you regret not telling her? do you regret making them break up before it turned worse? i wouldnt.

ps it could take months

Also, try handwritten letters, just slip them into her locker. I am sorry for your situation, let me know on my profile if this works out for you, okay?

You are screwed worse than a Rabbi in 1939 Berlin. You are screwed worse than a blind man taking a Rorshach test. You are screwed worse than a legless, armless baby in the middle of the ocean. You're gonna have to let the girl cool off for awhile. Seeing as you've been fighting for three months now, just completely ignore her and stuff for a couldple more months unless she comes to you.
Dang man, you are screwed.

*****es be *****es. Be sincere. It's all you can do. Asking people online won't help you with that.

*****es be *****es. Be sincere. It's all you can do. Asking people online won't help you with that.

i was like helping them out by communication and all

so the day after they broke up she was really mad at me for not telling her about it.

oh tks
yah i tried letters
just not hand written
computer written (my writing just typed)
they actually did work but then she got mad at me again

You could always just let it go. Former friends aren't worth the added stress. If she doesn't want to forgive you, that's her problem. If you're still at it three months later, and the situation hasn't changed, you may want to reevaluate the situation. Nobody is worth the stress.

Trying to help with two people in love eh? LoL That can lead to major problems (as I am sure you just found out)

So... Is she mad that you didn't tell her that you knew that her boyfriend was planning on breaking up with her?

Soooo... You gave her a letter apologizing, she accepted it and forgave you, but then she got mad at you again? If you will pardon my asking, what made her mad after everything was alright?

You could always just let it go. Former friends aren't worth the added stress. If she doesn't want to forgive you, that's her problem. If you're still at it three months later, and the situation hasn't changed, you may want to reevaluate the situation. Nobody is worth the stress.

I guess so
it just she was a close friend

tell her this look weve been fighting about this crap forever and to be honest im sick of this i dont even know why your so upset can it realy mean that much and if it does try to get back together with him if its meant to be it will work out

Well, I'm a girl, so here's my POV. (point of view.)

Well, she might just run off to find another boy, no offense, but not you. Girls; are built to argue. Honestly. I can get really greedy when someone argues with me. So, she might still argue with you, or she might run off to find someone else, which I would do if I were her. If she still argues with you, say "Look; it's ok. You'll get him back." Or something along those lines.