This is for all you atheists/agnostics out there that have to tell your religious parents what you are, but are scared to do so. I just did it today, and this is sort of what NOT to do lol.
About 30 minutes before my mom and I were about to go to church I told her that I don't believe in the Catholic religion. Yeah, BIG MISTAKE. If you're going to do this don't do it 30 minutes before you're going to church/temple or whatever you're going to lol.
This will probably be the most painful part of letting go of your religion. When I told my VERY religious mother who isn't very open minded btw, it was horrible. She didn't accept me and said I needed to go to church to "cure" me. I felt betrayed, unloved, sad, angry, unaccepted, and for the first time like a minority. I was really upset and called my dad at work and explained what was happening. He isn't that religious and a hell of a lot more open minded. So telling him was fairly easy, and he even said that it's ok to question my beliefs.
He told me we'd talk about it when he got home, and to just go to church anyway to make my mom happy. So I did.
I had a huge conversation with my parents when I got home, and there was anger, sadness, but at the end acceptance. I finally felt truly enlightened and happy.
Anyways, morale of the story is if you have a parent that is more open minded than the other do one of two things. Tell that parent first OR tell both parents together. If one or both of your parents don't accept you for what you are, and try to force their religion on you then just be patient. They are your parents and you should try to respect them. Eventually you'll move out and won't have to deal with it. Also if you just keep talking to your parents they may start accepting you and stop trying to make you something you're not.
I probably forgot some things but here's a video that I wish I found before this happened, it probably would have helped a lot. Watch it and take its advice, and good luck telling your parents about your freedom of dogmas!
Still have questions? Just ask me and I'll help you how I can.
-ps, MAYBE this can help if you're gay/bisexual as well.
That's horrible that your mom acted the way she did. I expect that type of behavior from strangers, but your own mother shouldn't be that closed minded towards you.
My mom knows that I'm agnostic, and she's fine with it. Even though she's...well...I don't know what she is xP A mix of a lot of religions I guess.
Well, my mom can accept taht I am not religious, but she has trouble with the fact that I don't believe in god at ALL, or an afterlife or anything like that.
It is awkward when she voices her opinion on things. Like the other day they were talking about these people who were rushing to try and get on a plane flight as hard as they could,but they just didn't make it. Then that flight crashed and all the passengers died.
A little while later the same couple got on a plane to go somewhere else, this plane crashed as well. And they passed away. This si when my mom pipes in with "Well, if it must've been their time, it was meant to be, someone somewhere knew blah blah blah."
It is so difficult for me to keep my mouth shut D: Because if I voice my opinion it just creates more awkwardness + conflict...
I just try to avoid church whenever I can, but there have been occasions when i just want to scream it at them. My dad hates organized religion, so i guess if i told him it would be easy, but my mom was raised christian and always will be, I once got in trouble when I was little because I went to a catholic service.
A little while later the same couple got on a plane to go somewhere else, this plane crashed as well. And they passed away. This si when my mom pipes in with "Well, if it must've been their time, it was meant to be, someone somewhere knew blah blah blah."
Ahem. This is a bit off topic, but it sounds like they somone was trying to assasinate them.
A little while later the same couple got on a plane to go somewhere else, this plane crashed as well. And they passed away. This si when my mom pipes in with "Well, if it must've been their time, it was meant to be, someone somewhere knew blah blah blah."
dam* idk how you don't chime in. I'd be ranting like a mother fcker.
lol jk, but ya that sucks I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut o.O
Wow, Lieutenut, I'm ashamed I never thought of how hard it would be to be in that position. I always knew that kids could change their religious beliefs, but I hardly ever thought of how their parents would take it. I hope things are going all right, and I hope your parents are some of the open-minded Catholics that don't think all non-Christians are going to Hell. To be honest, if I was in that situation, I probably would've done the exact opposite of the video's advice. I would've kept it secret for the rest of my life pretty much. Good luck with all that.
For the sake of science I will be writing everything in capital letters, to enforce my highly sarcastic tone.
About 30 minutes before my mom and I were about to go to church I told her that I don't believe in the Catholic religion.
GEE WHAT A GREAT IDEA! IF YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TOLD ME THAT I WOULD HAVE THOUGHT IT A GENERALLY GOOD IDEA TO TELL YOUR MOM THAT YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN HER ENTIRE RELIGION 30 MINUTES PRIOR TO A CEREMONY
I felt betrayed, unloved, sad, angry, unaccepted, and for the first time like a minority.
THE ONLY PEOPLE IN THE WORLD THAT MATTER ARE YOUR OVERBEARING MENTALLY ABUSIVE PARENTS! YOU SHOULD FEEL SAD BECAUSE THEIR OPINION OF YOUR LIFE IS ALL THAT MATTERS.
I had a huge conversation with my parents when I got home, and there was anger, sadness, but at the end acceptance.
I FEEL LIKE I AM WATCHING THE NOTEBOOK ALL OVER AGAIN! THIS IS SO GREAT.
If one or both of your parents don't accept you for what you are, and try to force their religion on you then just be patient.
CONSIDERING MOST UN-ACCEPTING PARENTS ARE SO SIMPLE MINDED THEY WILL BEAT THEIR CHILD INTO ACCEPTING THEIR OWN BELIEFS, OR WILL ATTEMPT TO MENTALLY BARRAGE THEM WITH STUPID MORALS AND CURES, BEING PATIENT AND IGNORING IT IS OBVIOUSLY BETTER THAN FACING YOUR PROBLEM HEAD ON AND TRYING TO RESOLVE THE CONFLICT AND/OR DEBATE YOUR PARENTS INABILITY TO ACCEPT YOU. AFTER 50 YEARS OF BEING RELIGIOUS ZEALOTS, I'M SURE THEY WILL COMPROMISE IN A DAY!
They are your parents and you should try to respect them.
BECAUSE THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS THEY ARE OBVIOUSLY ALWAYS RIGHT AND IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR TWO PEOPLE WHO HAD SEX ONE TIME AND HAD A KID TO BE STUPID AND IGNORANT IN ANY WAY. BLINDLY RESPECT THEM!
Eventually you'll move out and won't have to deal with it.
YEAH! BE PATIENT AND WITHSTAND 4-10 YEARS OF MENTAL ANGUISH! THAT WILL OBVIOUSLY GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH AND YOU WON'T BECOME A REPRESSED LUNATIC WHO WILL GO ON MASS MURDERS.
-ps, MAYBE this can help if you're gay/bisexual as well.
BEING GAY IS THE EXACT SAME THING AS BEING NON-RELIGIOUS! CAUSE ONLY GAY PEOPLE DON'T BELIEVE IN RELIGION, CAUSE THEY WANT TO GO TO HELL AND ALL PRAISE SATAN!
