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Hmm...this can be in many different ways, LiveinPeace. However, none of these may be true, so these are all in a "no offense" way.

1. She really does have a boyfriend. If, for some strange miracle, that she DOES break up with him, do not automatically ask her out, instead, get friendly with her. Become her friend before trying to be her boyfriend.

2. She really doesn't have a boyfriend, but isn't interested in a relationship with you. Now, don't take this too seriously, but it does happen. This is pretty much how my relationship fired off. two people asked my girlfriend out: me, and this hippy. The hippy was told off, and she instead went to me; that was pretty much the gist of the situation. Now then, if that were to be the case, she may or may not be in a relationship, but if she isn't, she may be hitting it off with another guy.


Either way, you cannot ask her out until you actually feel the connection between you two. You can tell this if she is really interested in talking to you. How did I find out? I walk alone and my future girlfriend followed me a couple times and talked with me. I did the same; she reacted in a happy way. If this happens, it's a pretty high chance that she's really interested in you and may want to be more than just friends.

But hope this helps you! You can ask more questions if you like

Sometimes it's best to just move on, Live.
You'll find more then one person you like.
If you decide to stick around though, Freak's advice will help you.

Thanks for the advice freak... a four seconds after I asked her out my friend Bryce comes up and says:

"oh I forgot to tell you she is going out with someone already"
I bet you could imagine that THAT was helpful -_- lol

Ah...so it WAS number 2... well there you have it. It's happened to me before; trust me. I went through 4-5 tries before I actually was happy with the relationship I'm currently in. 2 of those were rejections hahaha

If you are that inturested in her, remember that you are young and if things don't work out, it's not the end of the world.

You need to be supportive of her having a boyfriend. I remember when a girl liked me, she would call her boyfriend using my cellphone. It bothered him when she talked about me. She made the mistake of not telling me when they broke up, so I never got the chance to ask her out when I wanted. She admitted she wanted me to though.

Just don't let her see that you are hurt. Even though showing the pain of being turned down might sound like a romantic gesture that shows you care, it's not. Act like it doesn't bother you at all and don't act any different around her. Don't become a 'stalker' either. If she starts avoiding you, avoid her. If she does like you, she will either talk to you, or she will stop avoiding you (and she will want you to talk to her).

Chances are, you won't be able to pull any the above off. Those are just a few things I have learned.

It takes experience, aka rejections and trial-and-error, to fully understand what criteria is required for a successful relationship start.

try usin cloroform on her. ganrunteed to woo the grls.

try usin cloroform on her

ganrunteed to woo the grls.

Advise from a girl: Give her some space, even if she breaks up with her boyfriend. If you ask her out right after that, chances are she will think you are trying to take advantage of her. If you try to be friends with her first and she gets to know you, theres a better chance she will like you.

I guess you are in a place right now that you really need to wait it out. Since your young, chances are she will break up with the bf eventually. But none the less, don't try and sabotage their relationship (it will totally blow up in your face and possible end all possibility of her returning your feelings towards her) and as stated, don't ask her out immediately after the <if it happens> break up. If possible, you could try and move on and hopefully lose interest in dating her. But, if you really like her and want to continue your crush, just be a good friend to her. Maybe someday, if she is single and has been some time/space after said break-up you could ask her out. Good luck!

Yes. Become a friend to her. Not too close cause then she'll only want you as a friend. But become that friend that comes to her resque RIGHT when she needs it the most. Cause then when she and her bf now break up she'll think back on how you were so cool and kind to her and you'll be the kid that gets next in line. Then the trouble is keeping her. But that can be a diff thread. I'll be looking forward to that thread! Good luck my friend!

dump the b*tch on the sidewalk and find a new girl. if she doesnt want to be with you, why the hell would you want to be with her?

dump the b*tch on the sidewalk and find a new girl. if she doesnt want to be with you, why the hell would you want to be with her?

all Im saying is this girl doesnt want you. and following her around asking her out isnt going to make her want you more. she chose the other dude over you. she isn't the only girl in the world.

now do you want real advice, or do you want what everyone else is giving you: