There is this girl I met my senior year at college (a few months ago). We got along well, and we are good friends (with benefits) lol and we hung out a lot. We also got very physical a lot. We did use protection, always, and we really have no reason to worry about a pregnancy. However, this brought up a conversation between us.
Now, this girl has had a lot of screwed up, idiot guys in her past. I mean like dead beat morons and stuff. (there's more to it but I won't go into that) She always says "oh i wont report them for sexual harassment, he's got a wife and kids it would ruin his life!" (This kinda sums it up)
So now we get into this conversation about "what if she got pregnant". I am now 22 years old, and graduated with a bachelor's degree. I have a full time job working security at a mall, and I am working on getting a better job (with my degree, etc). This girl tells me that she would not tell me if she was pregnant (with my child) because it would wreck my life....
I already told her when she asked, that I would want her to tell me. I know her screw up guys of her past would maybe want to not know and avoid responsibility. I told her however, that I would want to know, and be there for my child, etc.
She now says that she would wait, maybe 1 or 2 years AFTER the birth to tell me. I think this is kind of screwed up. I don't want a child now, but if she got pregnant from me, I would step up, be the father, take responsibility, and be in my child's life. But she wouldn't tell me about it???
Has anyone ever had this problem happen? Or even heard of this? This is so new and a little ridiculous to me. I really don't understand.
I guess this thread is kind of just random, and to see if anyone has ever had this problem, or has any insight into the situation. Maybe, like why she might be doing this, or what may be going on???!!!
If you take me being responsible and saving sex for marriage as immature, you are an idiot.
I didn't mean to say it was immature. Having sex before marriage isn't necessarily irresponsible though. I am really responsible about it. I don't like when people tell me I am irresponsible or that I should wait until marriage to have sex. There are many reasons not to wait... Not only because sex rocks lol.
I play it on the safe side and push my wife down the stairs every couple of months....Kidding.
I loled at this ! hahah
you do know that whenever you "do it" with your wife later on in your life, you're not going to picture your wife, rather than this girl? It will ruin your life.
I don't really get what you are saying. You mean that if I get married, every time I have sex with my wife I will only think of this one girl in particular I was with now? I really don't understand what you are saying, or why you think this....
