I see tons of threads with people saying that they are in love, and some saying that they will never get over it. And in those threads there are older people telling the thread maker, that is usually a younger person, that they aren't really in love because they are too young to know what that means.
Well I'm a little short on time, anyways I'll get to the point. What are your opinions on which age you can fall in love.
Well I'm a little short on time, anyways I'll get to the point. What are your opinions on which age you can fall in love.
I don't think it's any particular age, however having a good grasp on whether or not you are truly in love, or if you are simply acting on hormonal impulses, comes from experience. Until you've been in many relationships and felt a broad spectrum of 'love' as an emotion it is difficult to ascertain all of the aspects of it. Also age does play a small role, as your hormonal impulses lessen with age which allows you to consider more critically your true emotions as well as your reactions to them.
There's a huge ****ing difference between lust and love. You'd have to be a total idiot to not recognize the difference. Your point is moot.
Not at all. Lust and love can be at many times very similar in their manifestations. They both create many similar secondary emotions. Our brains are fantastic at motivating and manipulating us with emotions. The differences between love and lust are actually very difficult to understand, especially when you are at an age that is dominated by hormonal and emotional impulse.
There is no age for love, but i think that most of the time when you are under 12 that you don't really love someone, that's more curiousity and meanless love:P
but some people are 16 or so and they really experience so much love, it's wonderful to see how in love human can be
With my ex i sometimes had the idea that it was more lust than love, that's also one of the reasons that i broke up with him.. now he's saying that his love came by lust... but you can't tell me you're really in love when you ignore someone for 5 weeks:P
but falling in love when you are 3? sorry i don't believe it, or you fell in love with your mother:P
So by what I'm reading, you guys think that love doesn't have an age minimum. But that when you are going through puberty and your hormones are in "control" its probably not actual love, just your hormones at work??
Not at all. Lust and love can be at many times very similar in their manifestations. They both create many similar secondary emotions. Our brains are fantastic at motivating and manipulating us with emotions. The differences between love and lust are actually very difficult to understand, especially when you are at an age that is dominated by hormonal and emotional impulse.
I think someone can understand when they want to bone a girl and when they actually want to be with them.
but falling in love when you are 3? sorry i don't believe it, or you fell in love with your mother:P
No no :P There was this 22 year old girl. She was nice and pretty. I picked flowers for her...
So by what I'm reading, you guys think that love doesn't have an age minimum. But that when you are going through puberty and your hormones are in "control" its probably not actual love, just your hormones at work??
To some degree, yes. Love is not typically an emotion that occurs instantaneously. There is no 'love at first sight' with humans. Love is something that develops over time, and often we are in relationships that don't even develop that far. Love is a very complex and selfless emotion that typically is the result of a very strong bonding process that typically takes a great deal of time to develop.
I think someone can understand when they want to bone a girl and when they actually want to be with them.
Again, that's not necessarily true at all. Love and lust are both emotions, they both create a strong desire for companionship, and they both can manifest themselves in many different fashions. They are quite difficult to understand, even from the position of an observer, but they are even more difficult to understand when you are the one feeling them. I would suggest to you that you study emotions and relationships a bit, because by your posting it seems to me that you are operating on some misconceptions about the function of these emotions.
There is no age for love, but i think that most of the time when you are under 12 that you don't really love someone, that's more curiousity and meanless love:P
Yes I agree you cam kinda can love anyone at any age,but it doesnt mean its meanless love if your 12 or under.
Again, that's not necessarily true at all. Love and lust are both emotions, they both create a strong desire for companionship, and they both can manifest themselves in many different fashions. They are quite difficult to understand, even from the position of an observer, but they are even more difficult to understand when you are the one feeling them. I would suggest to you that you study emotions and relationships a bit, because by your posting it seems to me that you are operating on some misconceptions about the function of these emotions.
... Happiness and sadness are both emotions too, doesn't mean you can't tell the difference between them. There's not much to it. If you just can't tell the difference between your sexual desires and your emotional wantings, then you haven't hit puberty yet. There is a huge line between love and lust. If you see a girl and think "Dam shes hot, I want to sleep with her" its lust. When you know a girl and think she is amazing in every single way and you can't stop thinking about being with her, its love. What kind of mental deficiency would not allow someone to realize the difference between those two?
If you see a girl and think "Dam shes hot, I want to sleep with her" its lust. When you know a girl and think she is amazing in every single way and you can't stop thinking about being with her, its love.
Unfortunately the lines are not so clearly drawn. That was my concept of it as a teen as well, but during the course of my education I learned that in fact they are much more similar than most people think. Lust may be a primal and instinctual emotion, but it manifests itself in very complex ways in order to have it's needs met. For example, how many of you have dated someone and been in a physical relationship and been totally convinced that it was true love, only to find out through the course of your relationship that it was not so?
Atleast in your mid-teens to really understand the meaning of love.. you can love someone but not be in love with them, there's a difference, many people confuse the 2 or think they are both the same thing I think
Just to lighten the mood a bit here I forgot to share with you all one of my personal mantras. Not sure where I first heard this quote, but it is one that has stuck with me:
I've never fallen in love, but I've stepped in it a few times.
