I see tons of threads with people saying that they are in love, and some saying that they will never get over it. And in those threads there are older people telling the thread maker, that is usually a younger person, that they aren't really in love because they are too young to know what that means.
Well I'm a little short on time, anyways I'll get to the point. What are your opinions on which age you can fall in love.
Unfortunately the lines are not so clearly drawn. That was my concept of it as a teen as well, but during the course of my education I learned that in fact they are much more similar than most people think. Lust may be a primal and instinctual emotion, but it manifests itself in very complex ways in order to have it's needs met. For example, how many of you have dated someone and been in a physical relationship and been totally convinced that it was true love, only to find out through the course of your relationship that it was not so?
I wouldn't define love in such a way to limit it to only a non-physical connection. I think physical attraction is important in loving someone and there's a great difference between physical attraction and lust. I think a lot of girls are cute and I'd like to be with them out of the context of sex. I can enjoy a girls beauty without being in bed with her. A lot of relationships are built on just that, physical attraction, but its different from the feeling of lust. So while beauty might draw me into liking someone, it doesn't mean that it's lust rather than love. Even if the only reason I like a girl is because of her looks, I can fall in love with her, and unless I show desires of sex, its not lust.
I think that maybe in your mid teens, then you will be able to like MRWalker said, distinguish the difference from love and lust, which isn't so easy to distinguish as Drace seems to think it is.
If you see a girl and think "Dam shes hot, I want to sleep with her" its lust. When you know a girl and think she is amazing in every single way and you can't stop thinking about being with her, its love.
If you go by that defenition, then I fell in love 3 times while I was in primary school, and one time in middle school (so far)
If you see a girl and think "Dam shes hot, I want to sleep with her" its lust.
If that were love then i am a pimp.
I did have a best friend that was a girl in kindergarden, we even had this picture taken together at school, which i still haev some where. But then i moved and had to change schools for 1st grade, and i missed her but that was long ago, i am a changed person, probably not for the better.
sometimes i wonder.. wether i like this girl purely out of lust.. or if its love.. sometimes i have a hard time figuring out. if i refer to "SCRUBS" the TV series would i be like JD with Elliot Reid. realising once that you have the girl that you really don't want her... anyway this girl at school it is her first year at my school.. not having any classes together and only chatting once or twice i only really got to know here over a school trip of 2 weeks. i enjoyed her company and loved it how i could make her smile so easily by acting stupid.. after the trip we flirted for about three weeks. now its just the ocasional hello. sometimes a wink from me with a smile from her... i wonder if it was me not asking her out.. sometimes i wonder if it was pressure from the people around me thinking it was a joke if that was why i didn't try to ask her.. i find it hard to try to do things that others get away with yet i get bullied and laughed at. it maybe hard but there are worse cases i guess
I think it depends on your maturity. Probably 10 is where it could happen, but some people are different. We "Fall in love" hundreds of times before we find our mate, So it really depends..
There is no requirement on falling in love. Everyone is free to love, but sometimes you have to experience being hurt so that you can fully understand what love means to you.
At a young age (pre highschool) kids think they are in love when they admire a member of the oposite gender for their characteristics ie having a good sence of humor.
not really an age limit, but i'd say late elementary (8-10) would be a general starting point. right about then children realize the existence of the opposite sex and develop an interest in them :P .
