I am a bit of a goth, punk, and honestly an emo. My parents want a prep, but that isn't who I am. I have friends, but I don't have many, and I seem to get left out a lot. That plus my parents not liking my style makes me emotionally fragile. Has someone else here been through something like this? I'm in a youth group, but only 4 2 of the people there, a few of the others tick me off just by coming close to me. Ex-boyfriend among them. What did you guys do? I'm tired of being alone, but I don't make friends easily, I'm, different.
Honestly? I'd try and open up a bit more around other people and stop being so damned depressing. I know it ain't that easy but put on the act of being someone else and you'll soon forget who you really are.
I would suggest you try presenting a different image. Changing your clothes does not change you, but it will change the way that others stereotype you. Give it a shot and see what happens.
That's the problem, I always remember it is an act. I am who I am, I won't let people change me to be like them. Particularly not my parents. I try to be open, but it's not easy for me. Not many people can understand the true me. And if I do tell someone I shouldn't I'm ridiculed for it. And yeah, I am a bit
If you're going down MRW's path - change your hair-style too and if it's a dark colour then dye it light. It's amazing how differently people treat the same person when that person changes superficially.
You have a point, I do change my hair up a lot, and I'm pretty diverse with my clothes, it changes how society treats me. The problem is, I still don't fit in, and my parents don't like the real me.
The problem is, I still don't fit in, and my parents don't like the real me.
Here's my suggestion: Dress for comfort, not for image. Be honest about what you think and feel, and keep open to new ideas. Don't be afraid of trying new things even if at first they don't seem like something you'll like. You are young, experiment a bit. Odds are that the way you are now is not the way you will always be.
Some normal clothes are cool on me, but lots of them I don't feel right in. I dress pretty normal to my standards, but lots of the girls at my school are wearing shorts a foot too short. I don't do that, I have pride in my body, and I don't want guys staring too much. Although I do like low cut shirts. My style is out there, sometimes I wear guy shirts actually. It's comfortable. I'm cool with being stared at in society, although I might slap a guy if he stares in the wrong area. The only people's nonacceptance that I care about is my parents. They don't want a freak, they want a girlie girl.
The only people's nonacceptance that I care about is my parents. They don't want a freak, they want a girlie girl.
Then really you need to just tell your parents to fuck off and love you and accept you for who you are and realize that you are are an individual with your own feelings and desires and that they need to deal with that or piss up a rope into a headwind.
No, you probably couldn't. I'm a very good emo, I don't actually cut, I get myself with my nails, this doesn't leave scars, and nobody asks any farther questions after I say, "I got scratched" And no, I don't purposely wear what they hate. I wear what I myself like. Some of that they do like, most of it? Not so much. And I wish I had the guts MRWalker. I only wish.
That's the thing. You do have the guts. Everyone does. You just convince yourself you don't. You are letting fear overshadow your judgment. The feelings of relief you will feel after having expressed your emotions are far more likely to make it worth the fear you have now, and they will end that fear. The only way to eliminate a fear is to confront it. Once you tell them how you feel you have no more reason to fear that confrontation, or their reaction. The event is passed.
Then really you need to just tell your parents to **** off and love you and accept you for who you are and realize that you are are an individual with your own feelings and desires and that they need to deal with that or piss up a rope into a headwind.
Even her parents are mistaken, their concerns are out of care, nonetheless. That would be a stupid and mean thing to do to parents who loved and took care of you for their whole life.
I personally think the whole emo/goth thing is a dumb fad. I mean, it didn't always exist in history. Its hard to believe that emos cutting themselves and wearing different clothes is part of their personality and inner being.
