I am a bit of a goth, punk, and honestly an emo. My parents want a prep, but that isn't who I am. I have friends, but I don't have many, and I seem to get left out a lot. That plus my parents not liking my style makes me emotionally fragile. Has someone else here been through something like this? I'm in a youth group, but only 4 2 of the people there, a few of the others tick me off just by coming close to me. Ex-boyfriend among them. What did you guys do? I'm tired of being alone, but I don't make friends easily, I'm, different.
Even her parents are mistaken, their concerns are out of care, nonetheless. That would be a stupid and mean thing to do to parents who loved and took care of you for their whole life.
The point that I was making is not that she should use those exact words, but that she needs to confront her parents and present to them that their pressure on her to behave in a manner that she feels contradicts her personality is harmful and that they need to be more accepting regardless of what they perceive as her faults.
But they would then cut me off from the people I can talk to. I have friends I can talk to, but my parents would most likely ground me for a long time, then assimilate me. (Yeah, bit borg sounding there, lol) I fear nothing, but being alone. Well, I do have some phobias, but they aren't half as bad as my fear of being totally alone. I am alone in my room all day, but I can talk to people whenever I need. (yay modern technology) And I hope that relief is worth it, I'm just kinda afraid of them. Sometime I will get the guts to tell them.
And I hope that relief is worth it, I'm just kinda afraid of them. Sometime I will get the guts to tell them.
All I can say is that your best course of action is to be honest with them about your feelings. Even if it changes nothing in them, expressing to them your feelings will undoubtedly have a positive effect for you psychologically.
Sorry for the double, but I'm trying avorne Trust me, my friends kick my rear for doing it. heh, they love me, If I didn't have them, I don't think Aaliyah928 would exist. I'm a poster on the suicide thread, Against it, because I've been in that boat. My friends drug me back to shore. That's why I'm against it. There is no reason to die, there is always a stronger one to exist. And it is Drace. It isn't a fad if you can't help it. Physical pain much beats emotional. I'm trying to change it to something less harmful, I should get a punching bag.
-sigh- Drace - you aren't really a people person are you?
aww cmon what did I say?
And it is Drace. It isn't a fad if you can't help it. Physical pain much beats emotional. I'm trying to change it to something less harmful, I should get a punching bag.
You know, how bout just screaming and cussing like everyone else does. What emotional pain are you in that you have to hurt yourself to relieve yourself...
Actually the physical pain is a coping mechanism for people who have difficulties experiencing or expressing emotional pain. We need to release that emotional energy, but when we don't have the tools to do so this can manifest itself as a desire to inflict physical pain, something which we can control, examine, and experience. Honestly, as a counselor, I strongly recommend you open up to your parents and have them help you find a psychologist whom you feel comfortable talking to who can help you find the tools to deal with your emotional pain and eliminate your need to cause physical harm to yourself.
If only you could see the scars that run up and down my arms...
I never actually used a knife or a razor to cut - I used to scratch - I scratched DEEP. Anyway, I ended up in the hospital because one of those scratches got infected badly. Since then I haven't self-harmed at all - Well, besides holding the occasional ice-cube which works wonders for me - all my bad feelings seem to melt away with the ice-cube. Perhaps you could take up Yoga or a martial art?
I actually do see a therapist, I saw one a while ago, but I wasn't as open with her. I'm trying to get her to help me with the parental thing, but they think I'm there because I have OCD, well, that is partially triggered for the desire to not have any flaws.. Zit attacker. And Thanks MRW, This has helped,
Look, I'm the same way. I don't cut myself, but my parents don't like me, and I'm ten. Look, it hurts. You know that. But, don't lock it inside or bleed it out. Say to your parents, (Or at least think) "I'm me. I can't change me. I am a human, and I can't take that you think that I'll change to a ****** preppy ****head. I don't care about what you think. I am me." You shouldn't care what these ****heads say, you are the most powerful person influincing you. Don't care about what they say.
I know but you're still relying on physical pain to cope with the mental. You need to find a more constructive way of dealing with it. I used to bottle it all up and burst out crying randomly because I couldn't cope - I don't want you to end up as what I believe people today call 'a bloody emotional wreck - pull yourself together' - at least that's what they always said to me.
I'm interested to know just what problems you have that are so serious that you have to hurt yourself...
There's plenty of people around the world starving to death so what I wonder is what reason you have to feel so bad for yourself. I really don't know you so I'm asking. It doesn't seem like you have a history of abuse or something.
If your only obstacle to happiness is yourself then go see a therapist.
