As a famous saying goes: "Don't judge a book by it's cover."
Now this can be a very powerful saying do you not agree?
Attracting the opposite sex can be hard and that is very hard to argue otherwise.
Is not the beauty in the eye of the beholder?
So does beauty not contribute in beauty can be only an opinion?
Ok sorry I was in a philosophical mood. But this subject popped into my head (Most likely the teenage hormones kicking in) but what is it that actually attracts a mate?
I know there are certain people out there who aren't the most beautiful people in the world yet still have a love for another being. Does it take time to love someone of the opposite sex or to see the attractiveness of the their body? For me it is usually a female that catches my eye and a simple smile will make me smile sheepishly (as most men do). That is what attracts me to her. Then to learn her feel and takes on thing decides whether or not I want a relationship with her.
But does attractiveness not always comes first? Do you need to spend time with people before you find them attractive? As a friend of mine I spent alot of time with, I didn't see her as attractive until I really looked into her eyes when we were talking and realized how much she spoke from her spirit and her heart not just her emotions that made me extremely attracted to her.
Which of these occurs most? Love at first sight is a very shaky quote and I can say from common knowledge that it is very fake. What do you think?
I'd say posting here isn't helping your odds unless your engaged already. haha.
It can be, but relations are all dependant on how you see your life unfolding with the person, or if your lustful eye shadows the common thought of mind. It's great, it's thoughtless, it's often skim emotions too.
Love is varying and dependant, and is questionably one of the things needed to live. They say Creativity is a devout form of love in which I say I score.
Alot of men are attracted by looks, so knowing the girl isn't a factor :P
You probably find that fake, redbedhead, but you probably haven't experienced that feeling.
But does attractiveness not always comes first? Do you need to spend time with people before you find them attractive? As a friend of mine I spent alot of time with, I didn't see her as attractive until I really looked into her eyes when we were talking and realized how much she spoke from her spirit and her heart not just her emotions that made me extremely attracted to her.
Attraction- Pleasing to the eye or mind especially through beauty or charm. [url]http://wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=attractive[/url] I think you might be a bit shaky on the definition of, "Attraction."
It does however take time to really love someone. I'm not saying the quote is wrong, just saying that it isn't either right or wrong because you aren't of age.
Although knowing the girl is very important. I want a girl who looks sexy. I won't lie and I am completely honest: if you are too fat or ugly I will not be inclined to ever talk or date you. Mainly because this tends to mean you have a lack of respect for your own body and low self esteem and I don't want that. I want someone secure with themselves and not someone willing to ask me if their dress looks fat and actually be mad at if I say yes. Although I would not chose a girl only on looks. Although they come into play, I want someone who is into things like me(games and such) and is just fun to be with in general. Also kinky crazy and awesome sex is a must!
you'd probably have to spend time with another person of a opposite gender to really get to "like" her.being attracted to someone you dun know much would probably just remain as a "like" with no chance of anything evolving.
Alot of men are attracted by looks, so knowing the girl isn't a factor :P You probably find that fake, redbedhead, but you probably haven't experienced that feeling.
Uhhh did you not read:
For me it is usually a female that catches my eye and a simple smile will make me smile sheepishly (as most men do).
??? Read the full thing buddy. Anyway yes but Im talking about the full swing on love, and the question can you love someone at first sight?
Well, I usually will hang out with a girl because I think she is attractive, but I will only really get a relationship with her if she has a nice personality.
I think for males, our initial attraction to a female begins with looks. My girlfriend is very attractive. What caught my eye at first were here eyes, smile, and very faint freckles. I thought she was pretty, but I didn't know if she would be right for me. One day we began talking and I was so surprised at how awesome she was.
There are many different types of attraction: Physical, Mental, Emoional, and Chemical.
I think we begin to be attracted by how they look, or their attitude/behavior (external things) and then eventually more internal things like personality, etc. when we get to know them. I think to be truly happy with someone you have to have all 4 of these types of attractions to them.
I think we are all saying pretty close to the same thing here. It is true that we make first judgements and attractions based off of how they look. You find someone who looks appealing and with that you desire to get to know them, if you are compatible then horray!
It really is a topic that could go in many different directions, I think typically it generally goes in steps. Physical Attraction : Personal Attraction : whatever else.
But what does this say about how we should present ourselves? Should we focus mostly on how we look and then work on our personalities, or vice versa? I think its a game we all play our own way.
I agree with you LonLonRanch but that is one of my main topics, what should we improve first? Are looks are important but what if you want a friend to go on a date with you, and you know your the prettiest person in the world but you know your personality can pull them into a relationship
I really don't care what she looks like, as long as her face doesn't look like a foot, and she is not morbidly obese. Personality matters to me most. I almost found love in high school, but she moved away to Texas, and I live in Michigan. I don't know If I'll ever find someone like that again.
I think it also depends on how well you know the person if you dont know them that well then how they look will probably be more important, but if they've been your friend for awhile then their personality would be more important
