Did you know that the word totalitarian was coined to mean a firm but well-meaning person leading the government?
Yes, I do.
Dictatorships are acceptable, as long as the dictator is good. Sadly, many of the dictators which have ruled, have been oppressive in one way or another.
Through history the term "dictator" has came to be understood as a unjust, cruel and oppressive absolute ruler of a state.
Take out the cruel, unjust and oppresive part and you have the definition of a dictator.
a person exercising absolute power, esp. a ruler who has absolute, unrestricted control in a government without hereditary succession.
BTW, that definition is from Dictionary.com
At time, multiple parties which cannot agree on matters causes conflict and problems.