Ok I am 15, in 9th grade, super super shy. I have been homeschooled my whole life, and this year I am at a school that has a lot more homework and everything than other schools. So my question is; should I drop out of school if- every time they mention a test, quiz, and/or a paper, and every time they do something in class where I have to go and talk- I get super stressed out, nervous, I start twitching and shaking? I also do it when I just think about homework. I wasn't like this at all before school. I am also depressed, stressed out, and nervous every/all day. It also gets worse almost every time I go to school. I'll probably start to get siezures and/or pass out if it gets worse. I think I just can't handle school with my shyness.
Because running from your problems is the best option...
Now, are you asking us whether you should or not, or have you already given up, because it seems like the latter and if that is so, it would be stupid to keep this thread up. Force yourself to talk to people. Talk with the teachers about your problems, talk to your parents. Ask them to help you. Make homework a daily routine so you don't have to think of all the homework all the time. Or, of course, give up, cry and drop out.
Possibleinstability- I have been shy my whole life. seriously. If my mom made me go to a normal school any time before I was like 13, I would have come home and cry to my mom to take me out of the school, probably only after the 1st or 2nd day too.
If I try to talk to people at all, I get really nervous. I cant talk very loud to people either, They probably hear nothing or mumbles. Talking about my problems with me teachers or parents would just make me feel worse and cry. lol... This school's g@y homework already takes from 4pm-10pm to do so I already have too much homework; so I can't do anything except school all day.
I can almost guarantee that you are so shy because of the homeschooling. You may have been shy to start with, but by not having to face it at an early age the shyness would get worse.
I would stay in school if I were you. You need to be able to deal with people when you are an adult and high school can be a very good place to develop those skills.
Either you'll be stuck in yourself for the rest of your life & incapable of forging real relationships with strangers & have some job that you can work from home at, or you really have to go for it and work on it. Hard.
If you drop out of school you'll never be able to interact with other people other than your family, once you grow up you'll have no job and once your parents die nobody will be left to keep you alive, you'll never get a wife, no kids, and you'll probably be cooped up in a house all your life.
Learn to conquer your fears, else you'll be a sissy for the rest of your life. I don't mean to be offensive or anything... but being a pussy about everything won't help you, if your parents hadn't home schooled you then you probably wouldn't be like this. BLAME THEM.
You cannot just drop out of school. What are you going to do to support yourself when you grow up? You are going to need social skills in the not so far future.
There is also no need to blame people for why you are shy/stressing in school as the past is over. Now you need to move on and make the best of your situation.
I strongly recommend talking to your schools guidance councilor. Their job is to help you sosically, emotionally, and mentally while in school. Your guidance counselor should able to help your overcome your fears of shyness and should also help make a proper schedule for studying. Also, you clearly are spending a lot of time doing work and maybe a tutor would help. I am sure guidance can help you with that as well. Also, you might be able to get extra time/extra help if you tell your teachers what is going on in your life. If you just keep letting your ship keep sinking without asking for help...you are just going to drown.
You have a tough road ahead, but things will be much better the sooner you start attempting to fix the situation! Best of luck!
Dude, stick in there, you'll get over it soon, I've had a similar issue. Best thing to do to get over being shy, be bold, act up, imagine that all that matters is other people hearing what you have to say. Try to find other shy people and hang out with them, or better yet, find a church, church people are the nicest, most understanding people you'll find. I'll be praying for you.
Dropping out isn't going to help you. Like Cenere said, you can't run from your problems. If you drop out you are still going to need the skills you would have learned there.
- Speak up. Facing your fears would help a lot. You'll get used to things. When I was younger I faced my fears and a lot of them weren't as hard as I thought they would be. - Find something you enjoy, like music or sports and sign up for a team or something. You can meet people who share the same interests. Like up Charlie said about Church, just a wider choice. - Just like it has been said before talk to someone you trust . Even if they can't help you, getting it off your chest to someone else (not on the internet) will help too. - Talk to your teachers about the work load. Or, hit two birds with one stone and ask someone else who looks like they're having trouble if they want to study together. - You don't have to be loud and chatty. You can be a quiet person most of the time if you want. - If life is really unbearable, think about changing schools. Different work, different people, different atmosphere. You can be anyone you want to be. - Practice! Go to the store and talk to the check out employee! Ask someone on the street for directions or the time! And always be polite. People will want to be around you more. - Have confidence! Or at least pretend. If you act as if you are sure of yourself in a time of your life when no one is, people will want to be around you.
Well, some of that is cheesy lol but it's true. Things are hard but once you get over the curve they get easy.
If you think that dropping out of something that you can't handle is the answer, you will have a terrible life. Change is good, you must get used to it.
You have to deal with it and find a solution because backing out will get you nowhere.
honestly you sound like a total dweeb lol.(im not making fun) You really must learn to lighten up and become socially interactive. I just chill in all my classes and talk to friends. It'd be hell if i just sat their and didnt say anything and freak out over just HOMEWORK. Honestly homework is nothing it sounds to me like you got major work ethic issues
Be a Fractoptomist. That is when you are partially optimistic. Only when something bad happens you change moods. Start the day by telling everyone that the day is gonna be great. You not only converse but you also make yourself feel better. Look forward to something. Do homework at lunch every once in a while.
Talk more on the forums. It's not much help but you will learn what to say and when.
honestly you sound like a total dweeb lol.(im not making fun) You really must learn to lighten up and become socially interactive. I just chill in all my classes and talk to friends. It'd be hell if i just sat their and didnt say anything and freak out over just HOMEWORK. Honestly homework is nothing it sounds to me like you got major work ethic issues
Telling him he's a dweeb isn't gonna help him. And hell, do you watch over his shoulder? You don't know what his homework is like. And maybe it's just something he's not good at, jeez.
