Ok I am 15, in 9th grade, super super shy. I have been homeschooled my whole life, and this year I am at a school that has a lot more homework and everything than other schools. So my question is; should I drop out of school if- every time they mention a test, quiz, and/or a paper, and every time they do something in class where I have to go and talk- I get super stressed out, nervous, I start twitching and shaking? I also do it when I just think about homework. I wasn't like this at all before school. I am also depressed, stressed out, and nervous every/all day. It also gets worse almost every time I go to school. I'll probably start to get siezures and/or pass out if it gets worse. I think I just can't handle school with my shyness.
super super shy. I have been homeschooled my whole life, and this year I am at a school that has a lot more homework and everything than other schools. So my question is; should I drop out of school if- every time they mention a test, quiz, and/or a paper, and every time they do something in class where I have to go and talk- I get super stressed out, nervous, I start twitching and shaking? I also do it when I just think about homework. I wasn't like this at all before school. I am also depressed, stressed out, and nervous every/all day. It also gets worse almost every time I go to school. I'll probably start to get siezures and/or pass out if it gets worse. I think I just can't handle school with my shyness.
Welcome to my life in hell. That was how I felt when I was in 1ST GRADE. It only gets worse. A tip for you, if you like books, read them, or find something to do.
Honestlyyou need to realize not to hide behind the curtain. Ok so lets say you make it through high school. Waht next? Do you even have the balls to stand up and decide your own future then take action to make it happen. im not being a jerk... im being real
it's high-school, its sucks balls for everyone but you need to get over it.
not for me . 9th grade was a bore just cause it was all the prerequirements for classes.
i was extremely shy in 7th and 8th grade. I'd always have my hair over my eyes and have blush flashes. The main thing that changed me was that someone was a great conversationalist in study hall. I don't open myself to everyone (still introverted) but i still give my opinion when i feel it is appropriate.
someone said this earlier, Be BOLD. Join a group about an activity that you enjoy!
I joined swimming last year (continuing it) and joined robotics as a programmer this year.
find a group that you don't have to "fit in" to be a friend.
To overcome shyness i unknowingly used Reactive Inhibition Therapy
i'll quote my Fear book section Spheres of Uncertainty chapter 3 Phobias.
For humans, Wolpe proposed 'systematic desensitization treatment', during which phobics would be taught to relax their muscles and then ask to imagine the increasingly frightening situations while in a state of calm relaxation. Relaxation was incompatible with fear, and countered the fear response. Patients would gradually be exposed to and taught to tolerate fearful things. Phobics had to be helped to imagine exposure to the phobic object or situation and, in the process, this would progressively hold less fear for them. 'Live imitation' could be used, involving models who would enact ways of preventing or interrupting fear responses. In all these instances, biofeedback, or the use of instruments to measure pulse rate, respiration rate and electrodermal responses, was used to ensure that the patient was completely relaxed before being exposed to fearful stimuli. In modern techniques, such procedures may be carried out with the patient wearing a virtual-reality helmet. Admittedly, behaviourists accepted that their arch-enemies the psychotherapists might help some patients. After all, patients undergoing psychotherapy were encouraged to repeatedly discuss their conflicts, which acted as a form of desensitisation. But behaviourists accused psychoanalysts in particular of 'mistaking a mere correlational process for a causal one.' Insight did not cause the remission of phobic symptoms: rather, insight was a result of the remission symptoms. In contrast, they argued that it was possible for a person to be cured without understanding either their past or the cause of their profound fright. Another form of behaviourist treatment took the opposite approach. Instead of gradually exposing phobics to the object or situation hat terrorised them, behaviourists required patients to immerse themselves in anxiety and 'experience their fear as fully as possible'. 'Reactive inhibition therapy', also known as 'direct therapeutic exposure' or 'flooding' was popularised by Isaac M. Marks and Stanley Rachman at the Maudsley Hospital, London, from the 1960s. There were many variations, but the basic treatment involved 'repeated or extended exposure, either in reality or fantasy, to objectively harmless, but feared, stimuli for the purpose of reducing negative affect'. This was 'non-graded' treatment, because exposure to the fearful situation or object was intense, immediate and recurrent. Unlike forms of desensitisation that took place gradually and under relaxing conditions, 'flooding' often excited profound anxiety, which only faded after repeated exposure.
i hate typing on this tiny keyboard.... i'll stop now.
My father's friend, he just entered school for a year (elementary), he can't stand it. He was so poor, so he lives in my house for 7 years and become a good friend of my parents.
Then he work so hard day and night, after 8 years didn't see him. Now he owns an airplane company in Indonesia and can make 2.000.000 dollars profit/month and rising.
check it out, sriwijayaair. It has branch in some countries and in Hongkong too.
I was working in his office and I get no competition or intimidation from other 'supervisor' or higher ranking officer, becoz I know him personally bwahaha.
I like Thomas Alfa Edison, he also a homeschooling, can u guys imagine, if Alfa haven't found a lamp. Even Ferrari stil using candle bwahahah.
Search on wikipedia: Thomas Alfa Edison, home schooling.
About your shy, don't worry, everybody have it's own + and -, nobody's perfect.
Street smart VS School smart. Which one better? combination of both is the best.
I'm an Indonesian, English is my second language, now I'm learning Chinese in Nanning. And planning to teach Indonesian next year, I like to learn language and it's free. here http://www.fsi-language-courses.org/Content.php
And the book price in China is 1/5 or 1/3 than in Indonesia, so I buy some books that I can't afford when I was in Indonesia.
You are still young, I believe you will become someone important in a few years, I have seen many homeschooling have great success.
Read:
4 human characters: Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic.
All human have 4 of them, but 2 major and 2 minor, I think you are Melancholic and Sanguine, but you Choleric makes u dare to write and make this thread and your Phlegmatic makes u close your comment and you find your nick 'shadow'
Most theories you study in schooll, will be barely used in real live. But still, u need some basic knowledge and yes, experience.
Experience is the best teacher, but other people experience is also worth to learn.
In some cases, you can't do what you like, you HAVE TO like what you do.
But If you have time and chances, you can become your trueself.
Pau11, don't be so hard to him, he really has problem, like everyone of us here.
He even feel 'something' more than us, some urgency that we don't or we don't want to understand. It's kinda complicated.
I was trying to kill myself 3 times, when I was 13,14 and 18. And I just want to forget those harsh times. I want to see better future and want to pay the fee to make my life a better life, nothing free in this world, even it's truly free(financially) but not timely and effortly.
For every problems in this world, there is its own time.
If you can't tlak to people without breaking down like baby, how do you supose he does this. MAke small steps man. Just say small hellos to people, or as every said said. Go to uyour guidance counclers, and over all, just suck it up. Your not the only person in this world that has problems....
This is harsh, but in life there are two kinds of people.
Those that make it, and those that don't. Right now, your looking as the kind who's not gonna make it.
Stupid: They throw the chances Normal: They wait the chances Smart: They search the chances Genius: They creat the chances, their own world order.
Sir Richard Branson, Bill Gates (he never register in Harvard, he just use their PC(oops, PC is not exist at that time)and make a REAL PC), Thomas Alfa Edison, and many other 'success' people. They reach their success not only buy dropping school, but they KNOW EXACTLY, WHY they want to drop school and WHAT they WANT TO DO.
For some of us, success is money, a lot of money. But for me, becoz I born in 'loaded' family, it's not something special, but it still important, u can do a lot of things with money, and you can use money to buy drugs and disgrace yourself.
Success has their own place, for a teacher like (I teach English and Indonesian in Nanning), success is, if you can make them understand, at least partially understand, becoz Chinese is a symbolic language like Arab and Thai language, Japan and Korean have some similarities but different in tone and pronunciation.
btw, good site to learn languages, for free of course.
My friend in Indonesia, he was doing 'blood money' when Soeharto regime still exist, but now he want to do 'clean business' with that money.
Now I'm helping him searching some kind of advanced-scale that can be used with some software (Linux and Windows). I get 1000bucks for 100units , and 4000bucks from the company in China(the commission).
I never expect this, thx becoz I like to learn language and yes, appreciate local culture. They do business so quick here in China.
You are still young, inform me. My mail, tulispadakudong@yahoo.com
and you are not alone, I was having a lot of money, but I'm not so happy, most of my so-called friend just want to borrow my money, but never gave back lulz.
Dropping out of school is the stupidest decision anybody could make. You drop out of school, and 10 years from now you'll be working as a cashier.
Just to let you in on a fact, many, many of the worlds smartest people never finished school. They dropped out of highschool, made something or started a business, got rich, and did whatever they want.
