Hello there. I do not want to say the ages of these kids or the names... So please bear with me as I tell you what has been happening in my school/life.
In my school I now know that a bunch of girls cut themselves because they feel sad. These where some of the responses I got back from asking them why did they do it.
well... the pain on the inside is to bad so i cut my slef to make me feel better
I know that others do it so that way i do it too.
well my boyfriend makes me sad so that is why I do it.
i do it because i am addicted to it
When they responded with those replies I felt a little sick to my stomach and my mind was hurting. I said that cutting themselves is no awenser to any problem. They then said that it was because it took the emotional pain away by hurting themselves. I said that is just pain x2...
So community, can you please give me any advice on how to help people stop or how to explain to them that it is not the best way to cope with pain. Also my mind hurts when i think that it makes them feel better so do you have any suggestions to help that too? Any help is good for me. And also. Please be serious.
My account was banned so I am going to be using my brothers account. Anna. You can't all at one time. And for the people that did not get though it. They didn't try hard enough.
Unless you're really close to them I doubt you alone would be able to help. When someone's that sad, their mind is set - it's gonna be really hard to convince them to stop. You could tell a responsible adult that could get them professional help. I think that's about all you'd be able to do. :/
Yes, I think the mods should be praised for what they've done thus far; they contributed quite enough and in an intelligent way.
I am jabello's girlfriend and i dont need a therepist
I don't know if that is true, but what I know about people with mental/emotionnal issues is that they'll try to persuade themselves that they don't need help until the very end. Believe me, I could tell you the scariest stories about people affected by depression and/or psychotic behaviors; I've lived an episode of that in my own close family.
Now, about how I can help in some way... I'm quite clueless about the motives that would push someone to do so, or rather I'm clueless as to why the motives would push a person to do so. What I know though is that as Cenny said, you cannot in any way try to use reason alone in these cases. I really believe that persons that have come to such extents should consult specialists. All the ones I know that have seen some have stepped on their pride to admit it is most helpful.
In some way, a cutter would be able to show you the cut and tell you "Look how much it hurts", because there is no other way they can communicate the pain inside.
I fear having read this is going to affect me subconsciously one day
I understand. I almost got sucked into hurting myself as a cope method but I stopped myself when I relized what I was doing. My sister almost did the same but i stopped her.
It's weird. I have never understood people that cut themselves. When I feel depressed I try to get some positive feelings, not even more pain.
And that's only one of many reasons people are strongly encouraged not to shun depression and its symptoms. How many times have we heard that ''she/he's faking it'', that ''depression's not a real illness'', etc...
I don't get it too, but I do know that it's something you can only understand once you've been there. It's like having a stroke; I couldn't know what it feels like because I never had one, but once it is there, what can you do to avoid it. These persons have problems, real problems that probably won't go away with just hanging out and playing some video games, so don't try to understand by relating to your own personnal experiences of ''emotionnal pain''; it won't work.
I don't get it too, but I do know that it's something you can only understand once you've been there. It's like having a stroke; I couldn't know what it feels like because I never had one, but once it is there, what can you do to avoid it. These persons have problems, real problems that probably won't go away with just hanging out and playing some video games, so don't try to understand by relating to your own personnal experiences of ''emotionnal pain''; it won't work.
Ya know, after reading that, I do believe that i stand corrected, i doubt i have felt anything like what they have. So i am now, humbled.
[quote] It's weird. I have never understood people that cut themselves. When I feel depressed I try to get some positive feelings, not even more pain.
I agree, when i feel sad, i go hang out with friends, of watch comedy shows. [/quote]I do these things. When they work. I'm very easily entertained and will laugh heartily at even some fairly unfunny jokes sometimes. Which is great. Laughter is a lovely thing, and when it's not that bad that is how I cope. Stop thinking about sad, focus on happy.
But then there's those other times where nothing is funny or pleasant any longer and it just won't stop hurting. :/
