I want all of you to post your thoughts of bullying, and get all of your pains of being bullied out right here. It is time that these forums actually do something good. Getting all of it out actually helps, a lot. I myself am bullied, and i know that it is not fun. Get it out here, we're all ears, and at this time, it is important to be in good spirits. Who knows, this thread could change somebody's life. If you can post anything, i would be grateful for your time.
the situation behind bullying sucks, but the simple fact is we humans have this impulse genetically wired into us. it isn't insecurity, or any of that bull crap the school counselors give you, we as human beings have survived for thousands of years being judgemental, dominating, and just all out imperialistic. it has been this way for thousands of years, and it will stay this way because our basic nature will always call to us. society has done its best in stamping down this fact, but we will never truly eliminate this part of our nature, lest we become inhuman.
It depends on what you term bullying. If it involves physical contact, well your best bet would of course be to seek the help of the Higher Authorities, I.e The Elder Gods, I.e Your Parents or Teachers. That's about it for such uncouth bullies. No use trying to hit back both metaphorically and literally.
well, i partially agree with you, but i actually think that bullying is only sown into our genetics to be there, but the major problem is people actually don't try anything to hold it in. also, people use it to take out their anger on others. for one thing, i am bullied myself. The thing is, i am more often bullied by angry psychos than "calmer" people. Bullying is not acceptable, and i want that to change in this world.
get all of your pains of being bullied out right here
Don't have any.
My cousin is right now in a hospital due to him developing extreme OCD partly due to his father, but there's also an extremely good possibility he was being bullied and that this was the main cause of this, but he's not in good enough mental health that they want to ask him about that right now.
I was once bullied because people thought I was gay (am not). That was because I wasn't the biggest guy in the gym locker and wasn't the best person at sports. Also, they made anti-Semitic comments about me. I went to the administration, and I learned that THEY DON'T DO ****! They said that they would discipline the children, but all they got was a phone call home, and not even a lunch DT. It was ridiculous, and absurd. Honestly, if you are being bullied, and if you live in America (sorry, don't know the laws for other countries), than the fastest and best way to stop it would be to file a harassment or assault complaint against the perpetrators. I wish I did that, but I didn't get the school officer to open an investigation early enough.
tbh bullying is something hard to stop kids. heck it was a cycle in my school life. even though i was picked on the most i always had someone else to take it out on (not physically of course) after practicing taekwondo i have learnt the basics of control and discipline and came to realise my mistakes. this was around yr 2. this control lead to me being even more open to attack as i was not yet emotionally resilient at the time, breaking down every time and now always holding it in.
however without it i wouldn't be the person i am today. bullying in some instances can make you. i have matured faster than most boys and now have become aware as to how most bullying works. because of this i have grown resilient and confident as to who i am. i have even laughed at some of the insults thrown at me because i found the humour within it and actually found it funny.
bullying however will always be with us. children will always show it, even my youngest brother is giving his older brother (my younger) the cold shoulder. we know why, but he shouldn't do it.
lessons i have learnt to combat is that, keep your calm and be in control of you anger if you know you have a fiery anger. learn to keep it in check. most insults are aimed to get a reaction and your giving it to them. if you find it funny, laugh, it can confuse them even if they don't show it. this leaves them with no entertainment and so they leave you alone. also never get in a fight by being provoked. any questions just let me know. (i know nothing about this topic professionally, this is just from experience and my own opinion)
Oh yeah, something that I forgot to mention that I found helpful. Whenever you are having bad memories, picture in your head a situation where the bully(ies) are completely defenseless, and then beat the crap out of them in your mind. You can't get in trouble for your imagination, and it actually helps relieve the stress.
Oh yeah, something that I forgot to mention that I found helpful. Whenever you are having bad memories, picture in your head a situation where the bully(ies) are completely defenseless, and then beat the crap out of them in your mind. You can't get in trouble for your imagination, and it actually helps relieve the stress.
i always imagined doing something so heroic that they would be guilty for they have done. because they finally realise who i really am, not who they portray me as.
I am not bullied anymore, but i was. my colleagues were not the sharpest tools in the shed, and i was a practical razor sharp katana compared to the bullies. If you know what i mean, i mean by inteligence. i was always backed up against the locker, and hit and tortured until i would do what the bullies wanted. What they forced me to give were homework answers. I would get straight A's on my grades, and thanks to me, they would get better grades. I just was tortured, to the point of tears. i only had one friend, and she was the girl that i was going out with. She stood up to them at first, but then had her wrist fractured. After that she was still my girlfriend, and stood by my side, but not when the bullies were around. I felt abandoned, hung out to dry. I never thought that this would happen. The methods that they used were so harsh, they ranged to just hitting me to playing games for hell like "does this hurt?" or "will you eat this?" This was driving me crazy to the brink of me losing my mind. I sometimes got lucky when a teacher was walking through the hallways, but otherwise since the school was so large, they did not want to deal with induvidual stuff.
I am now at a private school, and bullying issues are dealt with. I feel so fortunate, to not be possessed by fear. I feel terrible for all other people who are bullied. That is why I want it to stop.
I have been bullied for years whilst I was in high school, you have to learn to adapt, fight back. Going to the principle or supervisor will not help, they don't do anything.
But you have to think about the people bullying you before calling them mean etc. I've met up with quite a few people who bullied me a few weeks ago, and the moment they saw me, I could sense they were very, very sorry, and that they knew they acted like fools whilst in high school. And also, unless you know anything about his life away from school grounds, you can not judge them for anything. Most bullies are bullies because their parents are either drug addicts or permanently drunk, and beat their kids as if they were some kind of a wild animal attacking them. I have visited one bullies house a few years back, his house was... Disgusting, to say the least. I saw syringes all over the floor, piles of cigarettes in corners, it was horrible. He was nice enough to invite me, but when his father came back home half drunk and half high from crystal meth, he started hitting him quite a lot. He was rushed into the hospital that same day.
You may call the bullies mean, idiots etc. but you have to think of their lives when not in school, them being weaker then their parents that beat them.
Of course, I do not approve of bullying out of any reason, but it's not really their choice, it's a psychological fact, the bullies expect that everyone else is treated the same as they are, and that most people are used to it.
But, if a child bullies out of amusement, I say punish him severely. And yes, I do mean severely
ive been bullied a few times. a girl who was 2 years older then me in elementary (but when i was so sad and asked her why she does it and that i never hurt her she just gave me a shocked look and stopped XD)
also in elementary by a boy who just loved to annoy me and wouldnt leave me alone (the teachers wouldnt do anything so te big guys of the class took care of him XP. actually, even though im weak i actually couldnt take it and raged at him. i lifted him and threw him on the floor and it still amazes me how i did that.)
and in elementary by a person who wanted to be my friend. he was so obssesed with being my friend he had to be my only friend and threatened me about talking to other people.... not sure when that ended and how.
but in middle and high school nothing like that happened. i guess i was just the quiet person that most people liked and im pretty sure that if someone would do that everyone or at least most people in class would do something about it
I been bullied. Hell I got kicked in the head when I was in Year 9 and I'm okay. Stop whinin about it it and gety on with ur liefe I got bulled for 5 straight years and now I am at college doin my A-Levels. pick ur self up and get on with it! don't let the *******s get u down
reading all these stories make me realise how easy i got it. having a bigger body than most of the kids for the majority of my school life allowed me to avoid physical confrontation, but the mental wars are always the hardest as i was an easy target in this respect. ever since i arrived at my private school, bullying didn't stop. first impressions are always important and when one person chooses to alienate you publicly it sticks with you for a while.
