Basically, there is this girl who has been my close friend for about 10 weeks. We get on really well, and once she tricked me by saying she likes me. Now she is saying she likes me, but according to my other friend, she is being serious now.
Since it is the Holidays, most of this has happened via MSN. I went into it only liking her as a friend, but to see if she actually liked me I put a *fingers crossed* emote in my PM. I then said that I liked her (lying) and continued taking this idea further and further...
Now, I think I might like her more, and she wants me to prove that I like her on Tuesday (when school restarts) by saying to her face that I love her.
The *fingers crossed* emote is important, because it is my safety net. Seeing as she tricked me once before, if at some point she says 'Punked' or 'Tricked Ya' then I can just say ' Look at my PM. See the crossed fingers.'
If I said that I loved her to her face at school, then the safety net is gone and I am exposed to any trickery. Also, I don't want to commit myself to liking her because I don't want to get hurt.
I haven't had much luck with relationships in the past...most of the girls that I have liked have moved away.
If you turn the friendship into a relationship, you have changed the entire definition of your standing with her. Things taken for granted or said before in friendship will have a much more serious consequence in a relationship.
You will have to weigh your decision carefully. Do you really want to continue with what you have, or experience what you couldn't have before?
"Now, I think I might like her more, and she wants me to prove that I like her on Tuesday (when school restarts) by saying to her face that I love her"
Do not say 'I love you' unless you actually do love her. If you aren't even sure that you like her at this point, it would be doing a big disservice to bother her and yourself to tell her that. I would suggest that you tell her the truth, or if you like her, just say 'I like you' instead of 'I love you'. It doesn't make sense to lie about it, especially when you are talking about love. And if she is forcing you to say it, then she should understand that you wouldn't be saying it for real. It is something you say to either get in someone's pants, or to truly express your feelings. My guess is that since you haven't even started dating her yet, that it isn't the latter. So don't be that guy.
I highly suggest that you don't just 'take a chance'. I'm sorry guys, but where are your morals? Going up to a girl and saying he loves her without even knowing if he likes her? That is downright low.
I don't think you should say " I love you" to this girl if you don't mean it. You can say very,very gently and politely to her that you're not ready for the relationship yet. I think she'll understand.
Wow another problem i don't know what to tell you about this one. Lol Strop, Deviodless Used the saying "I want in your pants" Wow that is harsh moderater's put alot of pressure on the little fellow.
lol devoidless, you are wright there, although i think that, if you do want a relationship by all means go ahead and say "i love you" but if all else fails, and something goes wrong you can always kind of break her heart and tell her about the fingers crossed, but then you will have to deal with the tears, and her friends, and all the rest.
