This goes in a different direction that the other discipline topic, in that I would like to focus on children instead of adults. Where do you think the line should be drawn? Is spanking a child OK?
I was reading an article recently on a boy who was poisoning his family. When they family found out, one of his relatives punched the boy, and another locked him in a cage for a few hours. The who cage part I disagree with, that is not acceptable. However, the relative who hit the child was also getting charges against him. Granted I would not punch a child, and I am against child abuse, but I couldn't help but think 'I probably would have smacked the kid too'.
So I was wondering, when do you think the line is crossed? Does it depend on the offense? If it is an adult crime, do they deserve to be punished as an adult?
Woa, I just realized I said, "Parents should tell their kids they are ruining days/events/what ever!" I meant parents should NOT ever tell those kinds of things to their kids.
Asherlee, I was subjected to harsh physical and verbal abuse when I was young, but family counseling coupled with my fathers increased devotion to religion he was able to overcome his problems and turn around to be the kind of father I wouldn't trade for anything.
So let's all try to remember that there are alternatives when it comes to discipline. Parents MUST be open minded, patient, and willing to investigate anything that would be in best interest of their children. Investigate being the important word, seeing as I don't feel pills are suitable answer for getting kids to behave the way people want them too.
I think that some adults forget what it is like to be a child. That at one point in your life your parents are everything to you and they can do no wrong in your eyes. It is during those crucial periods that I would think you would need to be extra careful with not only discipline, but your modeled behavior in all aspects as well. That means treating other people appropriately in front of your children, displaying good values, etc.
Yeah. My dad used the old mexican tradition of painfully disciplining their children while they are very young. Im a bit lazy to look this matter over, but I turned out to be okay. Heck even my baby sister is pretty well behaved. (shes very cunning, though.)
Eshploded are you mexican? My girlfriend is and I can definitely relate! Though, I grew up in a strong Spanish household. My grandmother refuses to speak english because she says we sound like dogs barking.
spanking is just trying to intimidate children. but grounding is a good punishment. i once went to a town were they had hundreds of smal flags in the ground representing how many children had been abused that year, and it was June!!!!!! child abusers should be punshed
Children aren't disciplined because the parents in the 60's brought up children with no discipline. Those children are now married and have their own kids, which are also brought up with no discipline.
I have a 13 yr old son. I have never hit him in anger, or mentally abused him(as far as I know). You look at things differently when you become a parent. I think spanking is fine for blatant and defiant offenses. I don't think it should be the first thing you do, but it does work for bad problems. I have always explained why I was giving the punishment(spanking,grounding,etc...)at the time, so that there is no mistake why it's happening. This also gives him a chance to tell his side of the story. Every kid is different, so there is no right answer.
i belive spanking is just at the line, the only time i would ever spank a kid would be if they had hit somebody or caused major damage to something very important, screaming in their face i wouldnt do (mainly cause im not an angry kind of person, but whatever)
Child abuse is not needed in my opinion. I think spanking is okay, but punching and other physical violence is definately out of line. A teenager that does something serious is a different story. Grounding can only do so much. If things like this are repeated, there might be something wrong in the child's life or their is something wrong mentally.
You should punish children if they acted very bad but if they dont you should only give them a stern warning. (I wish my parents raised me that way but instead they made me have a time out every time I was bad no matter how little the problem)
Its a fact that kids need to be diciplined. I'm 13 and even I know that. Some offences don't require any hitting, but others do. I think, as a child, that I should be happy with spanking. Compared to what they did to kids back in the midddle ages. Seriously, for speaking back to your parents, would you rather be spanked or whipped over the back with a willow switch 50 times?
