what do you think about it like do you think if they do something bad they deserve a smack on the head or a "talking to" or something in between or even something different like timeout
even though I'm the OP I'm on a bit of a bias towards a smack because it teaches effectively IMO
Some kids just don't get what shut up means. They probably deserve more of a punishment then others. Some just need one warning, and done. But of course, if a teacher hit a child now, they would get thrown right out... Too bad, I miss old Catholic School Punishment.
Well, kids have a level of disipline. Basically, if you said an insult, that's something to get a lecture about, but if you show your... private parts to a person, of course you would need a spank.
It all depends, but physical punishment is only reserved for something huge.
Ditto for me, but I hated the punishment more when he did that. It made him seem like a liar, because in my three year old eyes, people who love each other don't hurt each other. I just hated my dad more when he told me he loved me because it annoyed me and I never believed him.
seems to me that you have, other... issues with your daddy...
I believe that kids should get a smack on the hand when they don't do what they are told. Pain is something most people don't like, and if you show that they get something they don't like when they do something wrong, it helps more than just yelling at the kid. But like a full fledge beating with a belt or slapping them the way you would an adult is wrong.
I definitley don't think they should be beaten to the point where it's abuse (as that is a crime). When I was a kid, I got spanked or my hair pulled, but I think that if the parent's have a good relationship with their kids and simply tell them that they're disappointed with them, that can hurt just as much or more as physical beatings which will go away and may just make them more worked up.
I believe that kids should get a smack on the hand when they don't do what they are told. Pain is something most people don't like, and if you show that they get something they don't like when they do something wrong, it helps more than just yelling at the kid. But like a full fledge beating with a belt or slapping them the way you would an adult is wrong.
I think that if the parent's have a good relationship with their kids and simply tell them that they're disappointed with them, that can hurt just as much or more as physical beatings which will go away and may just make them more worked up.
I agree with both these points and I use both of them when needed. I hardly ever raise my voice at my son, usually a stern stare does the job. Psychological warfare is very effective but you must realise that unless you are a master, the child will learn to outwit you... and even then, they prolly will learn anyway. Then the apprentice becomes the master. Jedi ftw.
Very true, Royster. Some children need very little disciplining, while others need a constant watch.
What really made it easy for both my grandmother and I is that if she ever told me "no," she would explain why she said no. She wouldn't just go "It's no because I said so."
She would say, "No, you cannot go on the other side of the fence because there are rattle snakes."
Agreed, tho this is where I start to wonder about nature vs nurture. I truly think its different for every person dependant on the child attitude and surroundings. Still... sometimes you think... was that my fault, that my child can get a bit angry etc...
Very true, Royster. Some children need very little disciplining, while others need a constant watch.
What really made it easy for both my grandmother and I is that if she ever told me "no," she would explain why she said no. She wouldn't just go "It's no because I said so."
She would say, "No, you cannot go on the other side of the fence because there are rattle snakes."
I also try to explain why I say things to my kid. It has gotten to a point tho where he is just automatically asking why for everything... so with some things I just say "because thats my decision", especially when I have told him why in the past.
Aye...and again furthers the sentence that it all depends on the child and the circumstance.
My grandmother just talked to me like an adult from the get-go. She always took the time to explain everything out to me. Even when it came to religion. When I was old enough to understand, she sat me down with several encyclopedias (we didn't have internet back in those days!) and a few books from the library. All of the books explains different religions across the world. All she said, "Pocahontas, your beliefs are your beliefs, and you can choose whichever you like. Remember, to always use your mind."
