what do you think about it like do you think if they do something bad they deserve a smack on the head or a "talking to" or something in between or even something different like timeout
even though I'm the OP I'm on a bit of a bias towards a smack because it teaches effectively IMO
I beleive kids ought to be smacked upside the head or spanked if they misbehave. When me and my bros were little kids like 3 or 4 we would have a burping contest in our bedrooms when we were supposed to be asleep(by the way I won(= ) so my mom came into our room swatted our buts and we never did it again.
i was raised with spankings, lots of spankings, and i am damn thankful. in the real world, you don't get a spanking, or a timeout, you get prison, or some other correctional facility. i wish that i could trade a speeding ticket for a swat now adays. its getting sick tho, little kids, no discipline, no respect, and the parents are too damn afraid to hit em, because the state will just take them away from you. seems rediculous to me.
Getting hit by your parents usually leads to fear, not respect. And that fear can turn into hatred, and then it escalates from there. So I think parents should talk to their kids, not hit them.
So I think parents should talk to their kids, not hit them.
I feared my mom when I was younger but I also learned to respect her and her rules. I have never hated my mom I am happy that she did woop me. My younger sister who is like 5 has never been spanked and she is the most spoiled rotten kid I know.
exactly, they need to learn that there are consequences, if you let them grow up thinking that they can just do wha tthey want and get a "stern talking to", they are going to be really suprised the first time a cop tackles them and hits them with a night stick. not to mention, in my town, and a lot of other towns out there, if you talk to the wrong person the wrong way, they drag you into the woods and beat you. spoiled kids are the worst.
I think my parents thought that maybe they didn't have to spank her and she would just listen to them but it obviously did not work and now we are regretting it. My Aunts kid is the same way. She never spanked her kid she just told her and now she doesn't listen to anyone.
even though I'm the OP I'm on a bit of a bias towards a smack because it teaches effectively IMO
Exactly what does it serve to teach the child? I've heard many make the claim that they were hit as a disciplinary action growing up and were better for it. But ever one I have met who was not hit seemed on average to be far better behaved.
I even asked this of my class in middle school once. I had those who were not hit raise there hands. Many of the most behaved students raised there hand. Not one of the trouble makers in the class raised their hand. what this suggested to me was that while this discipline could work it was far from the best method to use. This was further confirmed by the behavior of my own friends. Those who were hit were usually the ones getting into the most trouble.
Then there are those like myself who would have been more trouble if hit, because I would have hit back.
I think a time out to allow the child to cool off then educate the child on why what they were doing was wrong and why they shouldn't do it is far more effective then just telling them not to do it and giving an added punishment of a smack.
One example of this was when my mom was assisting a drug addicted mother with her children. They only knew being hit as a discipline and well never listened (another example of this method not working). One time at a playground the younger one began acting up trying to hit his older brother. My mom faced him to a wooden beam until he was ready to apologize. Instead he began kicking the beam. He was given one warning that if he didn't again he would lose his shoes. He did it again and we took his shoes off. he tried ti once without his shoes and realized it hurt and stopped he quickly calmed down after that and enjoyed the play ground peacefully. Something according to his mother he had never done using the old method of discipline.
in the real world, you don't get a spanking, or a timeout, you get prison, or some other correctional facility.
Isn't prison or a correction facility very much like a timeout for adults?
Rembering back to my psychology class I rember the day we discussed this. Im for punishment if it is done immediatly and in direct association of the unwanted action. Otherwise you could merely end up reinforcing negativly the unwanted behavoir and teach the child merely to do it when no one is watching.
Rembering back to my psychology class I rember the day we discussed this. Im for punishment if it is done immediatly and in direct association of the unwanted action. Otherwise you could merely end up reinforcing negativly the unwanted behavoir and teach the child merely to do it when no one is watching.
so what is your opinion smack,no smack,time out,talking to?
You guys are still living in the 50's. Beating kids is in no way related to respect or discipline.. Most kids these days have things like phones, laptops and other fun things. Kid misbehaves, take them away for a set period, ground them so they can't go out and they will learn their lesson. Increase chores too, that will teach them discipline, but always tell them why you took their things, and explain what they did wrong and if they do it again the next time will be longer. That's how to teach kids, not just smacking them, that's retarded.
