wow can you believe this one event starts a huge reaction amoung alot. News, Ellen, Opra, and many others my only problem is why didnt they see this sooner with bullying well give your opinions.
Ignore them or stand up for yourself. Most of the time bullies are just like predators and go after *weak* people and then feed on the pain and misery they cause. If you prevent them from feeding on said person they will grow bored and pursue other activities. Or standing up for yourself works also since predators don't go after other predators or dangerous animals and most bulliest don't want to fight. Blending in also works or seeming like an unsavoury target. You can also respond with kindness and act like anything the bullies do to you is fine and that your happy for the attention they will either get creeped out or leave you alone, this falls under denning them *food* == your distress and misery.
Ignore them or stand up for yourself. Most of the time bullies are just like predators and go after *weak* people and then feed on the pain and misery they cause. If you prevent them from feeding on said person they will grow bored and pursue other activities. Or standing up for yourself works also since predators don't go after other predators or dangerous animals and most bulliest don't want to fight. Blending in also works or seeming like an unsavoury target. You can also respond with kindness and act like anything the bullies do to you is fine and that your happy for the attention they will either get creeped out or leave you alone, this falls under denning them *food* == your distress and misery.
As I pointed out ignoring them doesn't work. As I also pointed out I have stood up to them and still got bullied (broke the %^$&ers nose, it would stop bleeding for a week and loosened his top teeth.) Blending in did work however I had to be completely miserable, and it's likely most being bullied aren't going to be able to fit in and be happy. "Killing them with kindness" to the point of creeping them out sometimes works, though there are many bullies who will feed off this and get worse, in a similar fashion to ignoring them.
Ignore them or stand up for yourself. Most of the time bullies are just like predators and go after *weak* people and then feed on the pain and misery they cause. If you prevent them from feeding on said person they will grow bored and pursue other activities. Or standing up for yourself works also since predators don't go after other predators or dangerous animals and most bulliest don't want to fight. Blending in also works or seeming like an unsavoury target. You can also respond with kindness and act like anything the bullies do to you is fine and that your happy for the attention they will either get creeped out or leave you alone, this falls under denning them *food* == your distress and misery.
Dont know where your from, but over here the bullies ARE the tough ones, looking to uphold themselves by making others put down. If you ignore them, they will see that you aren't being put down and punch/kick/slap/demoralise you untill they get a reaction, ignoring is a very bad thing to do
As I pointed out ignoring them doesn't work. As I also pointed out I have stood up to them and still got bullied (broke the %^$&ers nose, it would stop bleeding for a week and loosened his top teeth.) Blending in did work however I had to be completely miserable, and it's likely most being bullied aren't going to be able to fit in and be happy. "Killing them with kindness" to the point of creeping them out sometimes works, though there are many bullies who will feed off this and get worse, in a similar fashion to ignoring them.
Yes it depends on your situation but I'm confident that you should be able to bend the basic ideas and apply them to your situation. They are just people and the same rules apply to them. They are not a malevolent presences of omnipotent evil. Also I don't mean standing up to yourself should result in physical harm, I thought an intelligent individual yourself would be able to circumvent that kind of actions. When you take it personally you create a loop that only results in harm and self harm. It worked for me I was able to create a positive environment for myself. I believe that humanistic methods are possible in any situation if they individual tries enough.
They are not a malevolent presences of omnipotent evil.
Sometimes they sure seemed like it.
Also I don't mean standing up to yourself should result in physical harm, I thought an intelligent individual yourself would be able to circumvent that kind of actions. When you take it personally you create a loop that only results in harm and self harm. It worked for me I was able to create a positive environment for myself. I believe that humanistic methods are possible in any situation if they individual tries enough.
Believe me I tried, violence was a very last resort. Reason and intelligence doesn't work on bullies. In fact it just became a reason to single me out. There were a few that could be handled non violently, my favorite was staring them down. It was also hard to not take it personally at times seeing as some of them first pretended to be friends just so they could stab me in the back. In fact one tried in an almost literal sense.
I hate to be the one to say it (then again I haven't really read through the thread so I might not be the first one) but the best way to not get picked on is to be normal; or at least mostly normal and if that isn't an option you better hope that you're smart enough to offer homework help or else you're generally screwed.
Then again, I've found that making fun of the bullies works fantastically especially around the non-douchey "opular kids".
Okay can someone actually show effective ways on how bullying can be reduced?
One effective way is to really talk to the bully. Most dont understand how bad they actually make the other person feel. To them its a bit of harmless fun.
This does not cover total a**holes. Some people just thrive on causing pain. I will have something to show for it tomoro. Im going to bed. Nite
I hate to be the one to say it (then again I haven't really read through the thread so I might not be the first one) but the best way to not get picked on is to be normal; or at least mostly normal and if that isn't an option you better hope that you're smart enough to offer homework help or else you're generally screwed.
Or a violent, tall, and large person. That seems to work for me. Or it could just be the fact that I am half of Montana's population...
Of course I have gotten picked on, I have picked on some people, but for the most part it is all done with good nature. Everyone makes fun of everyone here. I wouldn't really say anyone is a "bully" around here, of course depending on your description. a
But then again there is that whole "Tall, hairy, menacing, violent" appearance and all...
but the best way to not get picked on is to be normal; or at least mostly normal and if that isn't an option you better hope that you're smart enough to offer homework help or else you're generally screwed.
What's normal?
Then again, I've found that making fun of the bullies works fantastically especially around the non-douchey "opular kids".
Bullying the bullies does work. Though it can take a while to develop the necessary techniques and you run the risk of becoming a bully yourself.
I just became the smart kid, that gained me some amount of respect from the resident bully.
I was the smart kid. Like I said it just served to set me apart more. They didn't respect me for it, they just ridiculed me.
One effective way is to really talk to the bully. Most dont understand how bad they actually make the other person feel. To them its a bit of harmless fun.
Last time I tried to reason with a bully like that I just confused the hell out of them and they picked on my for it.
