wow can you believe this one event starts a huge reaction amoung alot. News, Ellen, Opra, and many others my only problem is why didnt they see this sooner with bullying well give your opinions.
Yeah tried being friendly with them, they used it against me. You can only be who you are.
Friendly and trust are two completely different things. They only used it against you because you let them. Being friendly has only one goal and that is to deflate any negative emotions that you and the bully have toward one another.
Well backstabbing is only possible when trust is misplaced thus you were part of it.
Your thinking of different situations. I tried being friendly to those being dicks to me, tried reasoning with them asking why they were doing what they were doing, tried being helpful. At every step they just took it and threw it back in my face taking the opertunity of my very presence to attack in some way.
The times I did trust them they showed no sign of bullying. They waited until I trusted them. The worst of the situations was the time one of my "friends" came up to me along with two other kids I didn't recognize during a field trip to the bay. They ganged up on me and tried throwing me in during low tied. If I hadn't wrapped myself around a tree I could have been badly injured by the oyster bed just off the sea wall or worse. For those who don't know that would have been like being tossed into a pile of razor blades. I wondered if he understood that what he tried doing could have killed me. I had my answer the next day on the playground when I confronted him about it and he threw sand in my face and spit on me.
Got to say I didn't feel a bit sorry for him when he ended up in a wheel chair a few years later.
I've met those types, never any that tried to kill me but those who kept going even after I helped them out with something their gorilla brains were unable to process.
I will say the friendly tactic worked only twice. Once because the kid really wasn't that much of a bully and only picked on me because I was competing for his spot in the class, and the other time not sure how it worked but he wanted to be friends afterword, though can't say I trusted him to be a friend after previous encounters.
Thinking about it, it may have been from getting that reputation from breaking that one kids nose. So that second one might not count.
he probably wanted to be friends with yiu because he didnt know what he was doing to you was actually bullying you, and after he knew, he wanted to redeem himself, ive been on both sides of that story before
According to some, I used to be a really innocent kid 'till I got bullied. During that time I thought I had no one, so I turned to the church and suddenly all my problems went a way, and I was surrounded by the warmth and care o- please tell me you didn't buy that. Being bullied for 6 years was hell. People say sticks and stones but that's bullshit. I was suicidal, and what was wrong with that? According to what i'd been taught, I would go to heaven and frolic with the dead theists.
Now that i've left the bullying, and primary school behind I find I can cope better than quite a few of the fellow year eights I observed last year, quivering at the height difference of an older kid. Finding friends in the older years was easy for me. As I was producing no work and receiving no help in primary school until year six due to learning difficulties, school work is a challenge. But no more a challenge than the crap I dealt with in primary school.
I was bullied for a bit in primary then I grabed the guy by the throat, Highschool was hard as I moved and I didn't find a decient group of friends for a year, most crap I just shrug off and take on the chin but come backs are really good.
My first day in Kindergarten was great. Day 2, everyone (Im serious EVERYONE) called me names. On the School Bus ride home a kid from the 9th grade threatened to kill me, and punched me in the ribs several times; this went on for 6 weeks. He was expelled. Every year after, I was literally shunned/exiled from the social order of my grade. The first half of my life was literally worse than every other childs life. (except homeless, and the hungry) I was driven to the point of saying I would kill myself in class, the kids said "Go ahead, nobody cares about you." In the 7th grade this kid named Kyle or something, was my worst problem. He broke my glasses, I nearly broke his neck. He left my school the next year.
In 10th grade; My friend (yeah, my friend) asked people if they hated me. Everyone said yes. So I took on Religion, only to decide that the Bible is a fiction Novel. (My own personal belief)
At 12th grade, people still were condescending, but sensing it in their voices I cracked at them verbally. At the end of the grade people respected me, and didn't want to see me go.
In the end, Bullying will happen. You can do nothing about it, since it rarely happens in the open. While yes it usually leads to suicide, or the bully takes his/her fun too far by accident. There is truly nothing you can do. Eventually those bullied will grow angry, and rage out, causing the bully physical and emotional harm.
*Side note* When that Kyle kid drew his hand back... (During a game of dodge ball he got out by me and walked up past the line allotted) imagine the sound of the hammer of a revolver being pulled back, when that ball connected to my face, a gunshot. My eyes went blood hungry red and in seconds my hands were around his neck, and he was on his knees. After I Gerry rigged my glasses together I looked up at the gym teacher who intentionally looked away, showing the I saw nothing face.
