This is complex- most people here have made some true statements despite appearing to disagree with each other. Here's the cross-section which I believe to be most representative:
1) Sex = want. At least for most teens. And one way or another they're going to have it.
2) Teens = ignorant about sex. There simply isn't enough education.
3) Education =/=> encouraging abstinence nor promiscuity. People who are making this link and being concerned about that are jumping the gun.
3b) However, I definitely agree: media => encouraging promiscuity. This is one of the most blatant pieces of social irresponsibility ever and those who use sex to sell have a lot to answer for.
4) Teens = ignorant about consequences, health, social. Hell, I'm older than most of you and I'm ignorant about consequences.
So, uh, where does that leave us with regards to sex...and relationships?
5) Sex => relationships. That's how the rhetoric goes...but exactly how much should this be so?
So with all this, my recommendation: People are varied. However, peer pressure being a social reality, and the desire of sex being a physical one, we can't force people not to have sex. We can compel them to at least try to be responsible about it though.
And if you're 14 and think that sex is the devil, that's good enough for now.
In my opinion, being Christian, Sex outside of marriage is bad. I don't know too much about it, but I think that when you have sex with someone, you are engaging into a deeper relationship. You are going past all the barriers and possibly creating life.
Sex is a big thing, it should be something that is encouraged (The bible says that Marriage without sex is just as bad as Sex outside of Marriage) in Marriage but not out.
One of the main thing that needs to be remembered is that how would you like to be a kid who's mum is only 15 years older than you and your dad is no-where to be seen. It is a fact that many accidental teen fathers don't stay with their partner and children.
A kid in my class for example, has no idea who his dad is. He grew up with another 'father.' This father stormed out on Christmas one year telling this kid that he wasn't his actual father. How would you feel if you were that kid.
Kingryan, as I am not Christian (nor do I agree with a nice percentage of its ideals), you did mention something that should be said. Sex IS a big deal for a relationship. It does make it deeper and sometimes stronger (not always). I think it is important to hold it sacred to you even if you aren't religious.
I just don't think education at school should turn it into a bad thing that no one does until they are married.
Anyone stupid enough to have children at such a young age deserves punishment in the form of the financial repercussions that come from having children.
Anyone stupid enough to have children at such a young age deserves punishment in the form of the financial repercussions that come from having children.
Why should they deserve punishment? They made a choice and they should deal with it. This doesn't mean we give them a punishment for having sex. Also, there are people who have kids when they don't have the money to support them so how is that any different from a young person?
i blame the parents for teen pregnancy. raise your kids properly and this crap wont happen. the kids do have to make good choices though. so I say 70% parents and 30% kids.
i blame the parents for teen pregnancy. raise your kids properly and this crap wont happen. the kids do have to make good choices though. so I say 70% parents and 30% kids.
It is easier said than done. No child is perfect and sometimes the best parent could even watch their child grow up making stupid mistakes in life.
I used to go to Catholic School and they were all about "Dont have sex till you are married" and most of my classmates had very caring parrents who raised their kids as right as the possibly could.
Now some of those kids who I went to Catholic school with are stoners, others drink and party, and the small rest of them actualy turned out right. Just because a child is raised properly does not mean that the outside wourld won't get to them.
I beleive you will learn this whenever you yourself becomes a parrent. Parrents can raise their children correctly but there is no perfect way to parrent a child and different strategies work on different people.
Tempo013, that is ludacris! You blame the parents? How confused are you about life? Do you think there parents were there helping the kids take their clothes off? Let me explain how this usually works. One boy + one girl - clothes + sex (with or without protection, doesn't really matter because you can get pregnant either way, though odds are less protected). There are two consenting people. You makes your own choices, that's like saying you blame the parents of all the serial killers because they should have taught them different. Absolutely crazy.
Parents pass values and morals to their children. That's my opinion. No need to cry about my opinion. You make me laugh.
He was showing how ridiculous your point was, not crying. Yes, parents do pass values and morals but it is up to the child to grow up. TV, music, friends, celebrities, and many other things influence a child's life.
Seriously, if my parents knew that I was having sex, I'd be in some trouble. Although I can do what I want, my parents drew the line at 18. My parents never set morals such as what you seem to believe they do.
