Should I tell my parents that I am gay. I am going to tell them eventually but should I tell them sooner? And should I tell the guy that I like that I am gay? Or do you think that if I told him it would scare him away?
Gay guy with Catholic parents and a (probably) hopeless crush? Man. That's pretty unfortunate. *gives a big bucketful of honest sympathy*
Now... Should you tell? Depends on how important openness and honesty is to you. If it's more important than the potential repercussions of telling them, then yes you should. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't tell them anything about it. Not until you move away from home. Then, if they wanna shun you (being silly Catholics and all), you'll already be set to take care of yourself. It's not as simple as "just tell them, they'll love you anyway"...
Most of the posters in this thread don't seem to get how hard it can be to tell something like this. I have first hand experience with it, took me ages to gather the guts to tell my mom I had a crush on a girl... And that's with a mom who is really openminded and tolerant. My granma is fairly strongly set in traditional Christian beliefs and I would never tell her. It's a "need to know" basis sort of thing. My mom needed to know 'cause I'd like said girl to visit and I was expecting her to be okay with it, my granma doesn't need to know because my personal life isn't much of her business.
For you, it sounds like it's a situation like "I feel I must tell them but I am afraid of their reactions". *points to first paragraph* You'll have either honesty and consequences or secrecy and safety.
If I were in your shoes I wouldn't tell them anything about it. Not until you move away from home. Then, if they wanna shun you (being silly Catholics and all), you'll already be set to take care of yourself. It's not as simple as "just tell them, they'll love you anyway"...
Yeah well my dad said if I ever turned gay "sometime down the road, he would find me and kill my lover", those were his exact words I think.
Yeah well my dad said if I ever turned gay "sometime down the road, he would find me and kill my lover", those were his exact words I think.
If you think that your Dad will beat you or kill someone that you love then maybe you call the police after you tell them and your dad hurts and/or threatens you. The police can help you. You can get a new identity and family. You'll be safe. But honestly it's up to you to decide how to live your life don't let anyone boss you around.
If you think that your Dad will beat you or kill someone that you love then maybe you call the police after you tell them if your dad hurts and/or threatens you. The police can help you. You can get a new identity and family. You'll be safe. But honestly it's up to you to decide how to live your life don't let anyone boss you around.
Also, if you're scared abot getting to hell... You won't. It's absurd. Standing in what you belive, you'r god is a forgiving and holy one, so why should he sentence you for eternal damnation (not wanting to start a flame here)? For how he MADE YOU? That is illogical and quite unfair. You should really start thinking with your brain; it's wonderful when you think by yourself and discover you don't need people to tell you what's right and wrong.
If you think that your Dad will beat you or kill someone that you love then maybe you call the police after you tell them if your dad hurts and/or threatens you. The police can help you. You can get a new identity and family. You'll be safe. But honestly it's up to you to decide how to live your life don't let anyone boss you around.
Yeah but I think it would be better to tell them sooner than later.
Also, if you're scared abot getting to hell... You won't. It's absurd. Standing in what you belive, you'r god is a forgiving and holy one, so why should he sentence you for eternal ****ation (not wanting to start a flame here)? For how he MADE YOU? That is illogical and quite unfair. You should really start thinking with your brain; it's wonderful when you think by yourself and discover you don't need people to tell you what's right and wrong.
That's what I was thinking "I was made this way wasn't I, why should I go to hell?"
The Lord Jesus Christ taught love for your fellow man and neighbour did he not? Yes, the Bible tells us that Homosexuality is a sin (The act of doing it not the feelings (or so I understand from the Bible)). We must conclude that homosexuality falls under the category of 'love thy neighbour' and therefore God will forgive you - as for your father, IDK - Murder him?
