what do you think about it like do you think if they do something bad they deserve a smack on the head or a "talking to" or something in between or even something different like timeout
even though I'm the OP I'm on a bit of a bias towards a smack because it teaches effectively IMO
Ok here is my opinion: No smack merely reinforce the behavior that you wish to see to decrease the other behavior. Example you want child to stop whining about going to bed. You dont break out the belt everytime it doesn't but rather you reward them when they do go to bed so that they begin to do it instead of whining.
Ok here is my opinion: No smack merely reinforce the behavior that you wish to see to decrease the other behavior. Example you want child to stop whining about going to bed. You dont break out the belt everytime it doesn't but rather you reward them when they do go to bed so that they begin to do it instead of whining.
of course that's a bit harsh but i said if they do something bad that's like a nuisance forces out of your routine or whatever you do to deal with that
In my community I just don't see that and know personaly that a child who has never been wooped doesn't respect athority at all. I don't see how are veiws can differ so much and how we can both claim the opposite position when we have both seen the results first hand.
of course that's a bit harsh but i said if they do something bad that's like a nuisance forces out of your routine or whatever you do to deal with that
of course that's a bit harsh but i said if they do something bad that's like a nuisance forces out of your routine or whatever you do to deal with that
don't be snarky with me >.< like drawing a lot on the walls with crayon after you gave a talking to or like taking something he's not supposed to take multiple times after warnings
You guys are still living in the 50's. Beating kids is in no way related to respect or discipline.. Most kids these days have things like phones, laptops and other fun things. Kid misbehaves, take them away for a set period, ground them so they can't go out and they will learn their lesson. Increase chores too, that will teach them discipline, but always tell them why you took their things, and explain what they did wrong and if they do it again the next time will be longer. That's how to teach kids, not just smacking them, that's retarded.
That was a real bad example saying things like we still live in the fifties. People were spanking kids before that and you provided no reason as to why it is bad. and saying that you can take away the kids stuff is good but that still doesn't mean that spanking isn't better. We are not beating kids they only suffer the pain for a moment but what they remember from the punishment will last forever.
Then Id remove the child to some experimental facility and put him/her in a room. There would be a window through which the child could watch and adult they did not know take the crayons and instead of drawing on the walls draw a picture. I would do so until the child repeats the actions itself from watching the adult complete it. This is in a way similar to a famous psychology experiment.
Then Id remove the child to some experimental facility and put him/her in a room. There would be a window through which the child could watch and adult they did not know take the crayons and instead of drawing on the walls draw a picture. I would do so until the child repeats the actions itself from watching the adult complete it. This is in a way similar to a famous psychology experiment.
wtf? and what if you didn't want to do that that's just idiotic i mean it's night and you get ready for bed and you see them doing that and you want to deal with it NOW
People were spanking kids before that and you provided no reason as to why it is bad.
You don't know why hitting a child is bad? Ok then, well, I'll let you figure that one out on your own.
We are not beating kids they only suffer the pain for a moment but what they remember from the punishment will last forever.
What punishment exactly? All they will know is to relate what they do, in their parents sight < important, to the beating. Day1: Can I say 'shit' oh no my dad will beat me, he's there. Day2: Haha dad's not here, now I can say it.
You need to explain things to kids, until they understand, and teach them right and wrong, not expect them to understand it by themselves just by belting them or something.
wtf? and what if you didn't want to do that that's just idiotic i mean it's night and you get ready for bed and you see them doing that and you want to deal with it NOW
Did you watch the video of the experiment? Imitation is a very powerful factor in children. Why do you think so many run around acting like whatever they saw on TV. Besides most behavioral problems cant be dealt with one smack to the bottom but rather take time to remove.
remember people if you completely read the OP i said if they did something bad like after multiple warnings like draw on the wall or do something they aren't supposed to do
