what do you think about it like do you think if they do something bad they deserve a smack on the head or a "talking to" or something in between or even something different like timeout
even though I'm the OP I'm on a bit of a bias towards a smack because it teaches effectively IMO
vortex taking stuff away from kids skips the scaredness and skips to anger
So what? Anger passes quickly, and if you tell the kid WHY you take things away, and then put them in a time out or something, they can think about it, and just repeat it until they realise what they are doing is wrong. Kids should not fear their parents, it will lead them to be scared to communicate with them about things as they grow up, cos they are scared of being beat by saying something wrong.
remember people if you completely read the OP i said if they did something bad like after multiple warnings like draw on the wall or do something they aren't supposed to do
Take the bloody pencils/crayons away then and be done with it.
ok ok, stern talking have their place, the first time, if its not a serious offence, maybe even the second time, but sooner or later, the brat has to learn that there are very real consequences to misbehaving.
let me ask you this, now that were somewhat adults, would you rather have:
A. a month in a correctional facility B. community service hours and some fines C. a spanking and a lecture.
When I say that I feared my parents I don't mean I was scared for my life or didn't even want to be around them. I meant I didn't do things my parents told me not to because I was afraid of the punishment I would get.
ok ok, stern talking have their place, the first time, if its not a serious offence, maybe even the second time, but sooner or later, the brat has to learn that there are very real consequences to misbehaving.
let me ask you this, now that were somewhat adults, would you rather have:
A. a month in a correctional facility B. community service hours and some fines C. a spanking and a lecture.
So what is so difficult about just doing that, along with light punishment like losing a privilege.
Well like I said I had a combination of both. Generally if what I did wasn't to bad then I would have something taken away from me. If it was something bad then I would get wooped. If what I did was really bad then I would get spanked and have things taken away from me.
